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December 31, 2025 at 8:45 pm #453660
anitaParticipantHow kind of you. Thomas, to google things for me! I am truly touched that you did, thank you!
So drink lots of liquid and stay warm. I just sat by the fireplace after returning from the cold outside.
Mollie: I used to think that if I eat all the chocolate I wanted (in the form of German chocolate cakez), I will satisfy my craving and stay away from chocolate and cake and all forms of carbs.
It never worked for long.
It’s about relaxing extremes and going with Moderation. Not extremes.
I am okay now with having a bite or two. A small ootion of chocolate (100-150 calories portion) once a week, let’s sat, and savor the taste and feel of it.
Once I was so extreme about no fats and no carbs that I made myself sick.
Moderatio is key, control through reason and moderation, not through desperation and extremes.
About sitting, there was a saying. Z,z”sitting is the new smoking’- get up and walk around every chance you get, walk or stretch.
Thank you. Mollie for your kind words. May your new year be that of zzModeration and Patience and Calm.
🩵 Anita
December 31, 2025 at 8:52 pm #453661anitaParticipantI apologize for all the typos (using my phone and should have put on my eading glassed wherever they are)
January 1, 2026 at 1:40 am #453665
MollieParticipantHi Thomas and Anita,
Thank you both so much for your replies and Thomas, please never apologise for cutting in. I’m grateful you are here!
Yes, it is extreme, and it may not work, but I am going to just make small choices every day that future me will look ahead and be proud of and past me won’t ruminate on. So maybe it won’t always be T-total, but I have given up chocolate and cake for lent before, and that went okay. It is only temporary until I find myself to feel more comfortable around that kind of food. I will not, however, be punishing myself like I have done in the past. If I slip up or make a choice that isn’t fully aligned, I will smile, dust myself off, and tell myself don’t worry, the next one will be better. ☺️
I wish you both a wonderful year.
♥️Mollie
January 1, 2026 at 9:12 am #453682anitaParticipantHi Mollie:
Thank you! What a delightful Jan 1, 2026 message to read. To not punish yourself is key. Whenever you feel that you are disappointed with yourself, angry at yourself perhaps, redirect to => empathy for yourself. Treat yourself like you would a child who is upset- comfort her. Tell her it’s okay to make mistakes, that no one is perfect.
In regard to quitting chocolate or carbs, there’s no one answer fitting all. Do what works for you individually. If adjustments need to be made over time, make them when needed, one step at a time, one day at a time.
🩵 Anita
January 21, 2026 at 5:52 pm #454402anitaParticipantHow are you, Mollie???
January 22, 2026 at 11:08 am #454429MollieParticipantAnita,
So lovely to hear from you. Thank you for reaching out. I hope the start of 2026 has been fruitful for you 🩷
I’m doing okay, thank you. Since we have spoken, I have done 2 exams and applied for a job for post-graduation, one different to what I thought I would do. I found peace in that decision and felt a weight/pressure being lifted on my shoulders. For context, the original job would lead me down a path of whether to become a lawyer or not. This new job would be a stepping stone to that decision – instead of a leap – one step at a time, just like you said ♥️
As to the food/exercise, I’ve found your advice on having a routine to be extremely helpful. I’ve been moving a lot more, first thing in the morning so that nothing disrupts it, and then eating more fruit and vegetables. The scales haven’t moved yet but I am trusting the process.
How are you?
January 22, 2026 at 11:27 am #454430anitaParticipantMollie:
So good 👍 to read back from you. I’m glad you found peace in a stepping stone (one step 🚶♂️ at a time decision vs a leap) and in a moving-a-lot-more routine.
In the last few days I had moments of anxiety that felt scary and as I walked on the treadmill, I felt the anxiety easing. So, movement, physical aerobic movement (walking, jogging, swimming) really do ease anxiety and therefore improve thinking and decision making.
What kinds of fruits and vegetables are you eating more of (if I remember correctly, you thought of doing the keto diet)?
Thank 😊 you for tour warmth and kindness, Mollie 🙏
🤍 💙 Anita
January 22, 2026 at 12:19 pm #454435MollieParticipantHi Anita,
I’m so pleased to hear from you. I’m sorry you’ve had bouts of anxiety but it’s so positive to hear you’ve been able to ease it through movement / exercise. It speaks volumes of your growth that you are able to resort to exercise as opposed to past behaviours to deal with your anxiety.
My typical eating in a day will be:
Breakfast:
Oats with semi-skimmed milk and a tiny bit of honey; with either blueberries or a banana or apple.Lunch:
Salad (tomatoes, kale, spinach, peas, beans, carrots) with chicken cooked by my parents/ me in a dash of olive oil and spicesDinner
fish with the above salad.Sometimes I will have a snack – during the day like an orange or a handful of blueberries or a snack after dinner, like a small bowl of popcorn or ice cream, but I ensure it’s in a bowl instead of out of the packet/tub. Today I had a flapjack my mum and I made.
January 22, 2026 at 1:01 pm #454439anitaParticipantThank you for your encouragement and support, much appreciated, Mollie 🙏
Your diet sounds excellent, healthy and yummy. I noticed there’re no nuts in your diet (and that’s okay). You don’t like nuts, like almonds? Oh, and regarding ice-cream, “Arctic Zero” ice cream is only 100 Cal a pint (!!!) and it’s delicious, says I.
(I will soon be away from the computer for a while)
🤍 Anita
January 23, 2026 at 1:14 am #454457MollieParticipantThank you, Anita, for your support and encouragement! And yes – I love nuts too! I sometimes snack on them.
Oh Anita that is lovely you will take time away from your laptop. I hope you have a peaceful break.
Thank you for Checking in – I’m so grateful. I’ll speak to you soon 🩷
January 23, 2026 at 9:00 am #454465anitaParticipantYou are very kind, Mollie 😊. Thank you. Hope to speak to you soon, anytime 🤍
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