Hello beautiful people,

So, I felt motivated to write something for people going through some loss (particularly break ups). I read this quote somewhere when I was going through breakup.

” Things turned out to be the best for those who makes the best of the way things turned out”

Yes, breakups are hard and very painful. However, when we lose one identity our mind tricks to form another one asap. So, we get caught in this loop of victim and self pity identity. And more misery and suffering to our pain. We say things like this is unfair, why this is happening to me, why me etc. etc. then we add more pain by blaming ourselves for the breakup. We say, I must be not good enough, not strong enough, not beautiful enough, not outgoing enough, not etc. etc. And then we go another step add further misery by blaming our ex Bf or Gf. We think like He or she was manipulative, was cheater, was a bad person, was an ass####, was this, was that etc etc.

However, none of the above helps us with our grief and pain. These all, blame, guilt, self pity, poor me just create more suffering us. Its already happened. Now finding reasons to blame yourself or others doesn’t undo it.

So what should we do to mitigate the amount of pain we are going through?

Again ” Things turned out to be the best for those who makes the best of the way things turned out”

You can turn it out around, if you rise above your negative emotions and pain, and look beyond this event. You can make it the best thing ever happened to you if you acknowledge, forgive yourself or others and let go. You can put the baggage full with ‘pain of your past’ and ‘worry of future’ down now and walk freely.

How to walk freely? Accept your pain from loss, don’t run from it and don’t blame yourself or others. Learn to get comfortable in acknowledging difficult emotions, rather than suppressing them or acting out on them. And start your work in this present moment.

The question is not what has happened, the question what are you doing now to turn it around. There are many stories around the world. You can do it to, you know. Its not easy but its not impossible either.

Goodluck
Brav3