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  • June 10, 2014 at 10:24 am #58489
    Jobebee
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    Hiya,

    Recently I have been at a crossroads. I didn’t get into the universities that I had hoped for and thus have been forced into having a year out. This is fine with me, my current work place is going to train me up in a few different things so I can make a little more money in the meantime. However, I have recently decided that I would like to do Sports Therapy at university. My boyfriend thinks this is a ad idea and thinks I should be doing something within the NHS.

    After me telling him about my possible plans to train as a sports therapist, he sent me a message saying the following;

    “Don’t be a looser and settle for the bottom run when you have every chance and capability to pull yourself up so much higher. You should be thinking of a nice house, nice village and good schools for your children. Scarping the barrel, telling them no and living in a shit area won’t seem so clever.”

    I’m not sure if I’m being too sensitive? I am very practical and want to do something hands on and with people. I am good at anatomy and think I would be a brilliant sports therapist.

    tah, Jobe

    June 10, 2014 at 11:22 am #58500
    Matt
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    Jobebee,

    What’s your question? Too sensitive about what? Your boyfriend dropping a deuce on your dream? How should you feel?

    With warmth,
    Matt

    June 10, 2014 at 11:38 am #58501
    CEP
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    I had a little too much to drink on Thursday, my boyfriend and I got into a fight over something stupid. We got home and I said some very hurtful and mean things to him…I have never acted this way before. We were suppose to go out of town the next day, and we still did but it was miserable. We bickered the entire time and the ride home he said he didn’t know if he wanted to do this, he lost respect for me, and he only went out of town with me because of pity. He said he didn’t see a future with us. He also made a comment, “what if I just told you I wanted to work it out?” As we got closer to home I suggested we grab something to eat and he said it would be a good idea. We talked, told each other what we needed to work on, and I went home. Since then he has been acting very distant and talking to me as a friend. I am afraid that he really did not want to work it out or maybe he just needs some time to get over the fight. We have never fought like this before 🙁 I don’t want to bring up how I am feeling to him because I don’t want to bug.

    Advice?

    June 10, 2014 at 11:39 am #58502
    CEP
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    I am sorry I did not mean to post that!

    June 10, 2014 at 1:27 pm #58519
    Jobebee
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    My question is am I being too sensitive about his response to my career hopes? I was totally gutted and miserable when he rained on my parade. xx

    June 10, 2014 at 1:39 pm #58524
    Dermot
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    Hi (My first post! 😀 )

    I think you are being a bit too sensitive. It sounds like he is trying to build you up, but you may see the fact that he says it in a dominant tone as negative. I personally think it is just his way of helping, some people are just brash with how they approach things….calling you a looser and acting inconsiderate of your dreams is just him getting his point across without thinking how it may be perceived.

    He seems to think that you might regret what you want to do later when the novelty of it has worn off and what you do for a living is not the most important thing anymore, instead family life, having good opportunities to move on and having some money to be comfortable may take precedence.

    Whether you should do sports therapy is up to you, but ignore him calling you a looser and saying things like “living in a shit are wont seem so clever”…instead focus on that one phrase that really stood out to me “you have every chance and capability to pull yourself up so much higher”….that sounds like a pretty caring guy to me, even if he puts his foot in his mouth 😉

    all the best.

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