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  • November 15, 2025 at 9:24 am #451824
    anita
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    Oh, hotlines. Any of the resource links of any potential value for you?

    November 16, 2025 at 12:55 am #451845
    Adalie
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    Not really there’s things on those links to help but its not real help to get out of a relationship.

    November 16, 2025 at 8:44 am #451851
    anita
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    Dear Adalie: From what I remember you sharing, the only reason you’re still in the relationship was financial.. Is it?

    December 13, 2025 at 3:39 pm #452938
    Adalie
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    Jake unfriended me on Facebook and it hurts a lot even though it shouldn’t. It just makes me really sad like i dont matter.

    December 13, 2025 at 3:44 pm #452939
    Adalie
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    Jake has unfriended me on Facebook. It makes me sad and it hurts my heart and it shouldn’t. But it does it makes me feel like I dont matter or never did. I was on his Facabook the whole time till just now. Maybe for the best.

    December 13, 2025 at 4:21 pm #452941
    anita
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    Dear Adalie:

    I am sorry that you’re hurting, and I do hope that it is for the best. If it helps to share more, please do.

    Anita

    December 13, 2025 at 4:25 pm #452942
    Thomas168
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    The English poet once said, “It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
    Don’t know how true this saying is cause I know how much it hurts to lose love.
    But, got to believe there is something better coming.

    December 13, 2025 at 5:49 pm #452946
    Adalie
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    Its my fault for meeting up with him and letting something happen. He kept me there this whole time until now. Kinda stupid that im hurt by being unfriended. Dosent help that my husband also said hurtful unkind things this morning. But this is hurting me more. There was never a relationship there just one day and no communication. I didn’t matter enough

    December 13, 2025 at 7:26 pm #452947
    Thomas168
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    Adalie said, “Its my fault for meeting up with him and letting something happen.”
    Did it provide you with any happiness? I understand you are taking responsibility. But, it takes two to tango?
    Everybody wants to find happiness. Unfortunately happiness has to be in you first. Another person can’t provide it.

    Adalie said, “Kinda stupid that im hurt by being unfriended.”
    When is rejection ever not hurtful? It is only natural to feel this way.

    Adalie said, “There was never a relationship there just one day and no communication. I didn’t matter enough”
    You matter. Just not to him. It does hurt to be used and cast away.
    Never forget that you do matter. Just got to find the right person.
    It is tough to know when to let the heart go because one can be hurt so easily.

    I hope you have better days ahead of you. Friends do help??
    I know there is nothing I can say to get you out of this funk, hurting.

    December 13, 2025 at 7:49 pm #452949
    anita
    Participant

    This reply has been reported for inappropriate content.

    (Wow, Thomas- excellent reply!)

    Dear Adalie:

    Like Thomas said, it’s natural to feel hurt when rejected. I know that kind of hurt. I imagine everyone does.

    You are not alone in how you feel, and you WILL feel better.

    Anita

    December 14, 2025 at 1:07 pm #452969
    anita
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    How are you feeling today, Adalie?

    December 15, 2025 at 10:27 am #452990
    Adalie
    Participant

    Thank you for responding to everything and giving me someone to talk to. I appreciate it will be okay i think it just hurts. Ny marriage isnt helping either and I feel stuck but I dont think it will be that way forever just stuck right now. Just confused and hurt. Maybe I mattered to the other person in the moment when we met up but he probably isnt mature enough emotionally to handle anything beyond. He was kind and gentle and that does matter.

    December 15, 2025 at 11:36 am #452994
    anita
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    Dear Adalie:

    You are very welcome. I hope that your marriage resolves somehow and that your confusion and hurt lessen and lessen. I am glad to read that “it will be that way forever”, so, there’s hope for something new and better. Please post anytime you need someone to talk to. I am here.

    🤍 Anita

    January 12, 2026 at 9:11 pm #454107
    Adalie
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    My husband basically said im just good for cooling meals. That thats what a wife is for…he often just takes his meal to his room. Comes back for more or just to put his plate away. His comment didnt make me feel great at all. Im a bit disgusted when he sometimes comes back downstairs. Thanks me for the meal and that he liked it. But thats when he shows me he has an election and says thats how much he liked the food and how good it was. I was trying to cook or do something with ny back turned. He comes out of nowhere and hugs me but with his erect penis touching me. I know hes doing it on purpose knowing I dont like that and dont want that. He just says what im just giving you a hug.

    Im trying to find therapy so I have someone to talk to.

    January 13, 2026 at 8:37 am #454117
    anita
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    Dear Adalie:

    I am so sorry 😞 to read about the sad state of your marriage.

    I am sad that you are in a situation where you’re treated so disrespectfully.

    I am guessing he didn’t behave in these ways in the beginning?

    You shard before that you’re living with him because of financial reasons. Sounds like you’re trapped in this situation?

    🤍 Anita

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