Hopefully someone will have the time and patience to read through this.

I entered a relationship around 10 months ago. After a couple of months, he showed signs of control, and slight abuse (name calling, emotionally withdrawing himself.)

However, I chose to ignore this, as the rest of the time he was loving and said all the right things, and we enjoyed spending time together.

After 6 months, we moved into a flat together. Just after this, some loyalty issues began to arrive on his behalf. He was speaking to other girls, liking inappropriate picture’s of girls on social media, and watching pornography. (A lot of people may think this is normal, but I have never liked the idea of porn.)

This period of time was a real struggle, and after several attempts to fix things, I decided to leave and return back to my family home.

I felt this was the right decision at the time, but my partner (ex-partner) at this point, did not cut contact. He continues to be involved in my life, asking to meet up, texting and advising me that he had been seeing a counsellor and had sorted all his issues out and none of this would happen again (etc etc…)

4 weeks passed, and I started to believe what he was saying, and I returned back to him and moved back into our flat together. We decided “No more games, No name calling, and no ending the relationship unless we really mean it.) We are 23, you can probably I am young because I do not know what to do in this situation.)

At first, I was happy and he did seem to have made changes. However after a short time, the arguing, name calling and abuse began again. I felt really confused, because surely someone would have learned after this?

Now he has said to me that he needs space, and isn’t sure what he wants from this relationship. I am very upset, because I advised him before I returned – that if I return there can be no more games or messing with my feelings (as it will be hard to me to leave again, I cannot return to the same family home because they are tired of the “back and forth”)

I am stuck, his proposal is:

“Let him stay out a few times a week, and not see me every day. Then he will see how he feels and decided whether he can commit to the relationship.”

But how long will this take? Should I just agree to this and wait in limbo?

Please help 🙁