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July 21, 2018 at 7:45 am #217999AnonymousGuest
Dear maggie mac:
Better balance that hope with the possibility, and it is a possibility, that it is over. You know the possibility exists, so better not ignore it. He is very rigid this way, in what he demanded of you in the relationship, to not distress you in the way he specified to you.
This long distance relationship has been difficult for you for a long, long time. And he wouldn’t move close to you. So it continued to be difficult. Maybe he preferred it long distance but you didn’t. I think you tried to accommodate him best you could.
I don’t like it that he hasn’t contacted you all this time. It would have been decent of him to let you know where he stands instead of leaving you in this limbo. That in itself is unkind, not to mention, not loving.
anita
July 21, 2018 at 8:43 am #218013maggie macParticipantHey, Anita.
Yes, it could be over but I am going to wait for a few more days before I begin to process that. I agree that it isn’t loving to not contact me but I know how his mind works so I can understand a little better.
Thank you for your concern and of course, everything you say is true. I am just not ready to go there yet.
Thanks again and I will stay in touch.
July 21, 2018 at 8:57 am #218015AnonymousGuestDear Maggie mac:
I understand. You are welcome and hoping for the best for you, will be looking for your next post.
anita
July 21, 2018 at 3:57 pm #218035maggie macParticipantI talked to my mom about it today and felt better afterwards.
I am still in denial that this could happen so suddenly because for my birthday he gave me a beautiful card with his own thoughts on it. He has been talking about how he is streaming lining the office and selling things so he can consolidate so he can come here more often. That was one of our last conversations. I guess that is why it is so hard to believe it but I def have entertained it.
July 22, 2018 at 4:18 am #218063AnonymousGuestDear maggie mac:
It is hard to believe, that following such words he will just disappear from your life. It is possible that he is very, very busy and time has a different feel to it, for him, than it does to you, that is, it passes quickly for him and a week for him feels like two days. He was busy Saturday when the last conversation took place. From your own experience with him during times he was very busy, you can consider this possibility.
There are other possibilities. Again, your experience with him can shed some light on those. In the past when he stopped calling you following a similar conflict, what caused him to be in contact with you again, how did that happen. If you would like to answer, please do.
anita
July 30, 2018 at 10:13 am #219437maggie macParticipantHi, Anita. I didn’t really feel like writing this but you have been so kind I decided to. I guess my lack of wanting to just stems from the pain and not wanting to give it a voice.
It has been 17 days without a word from him.
Whatever reason, whatever issue, this has let me know he no longer wants me in his life and I am doing everything I can to come to terms with it.
If anything changes I will let you know.
July 30, 2018 at 1:22 pm #219459AnonymousGuestDear Maggie mac;
Thank you for updating me. It is kind of you to do so even though you didn’t feel like it. I appreciate it and feel sad for you, knowing how sad you must be. I hope to read from you again and I do so hope you feel better very soon.
anita
August 3, 2018 at 7:12 am #220175AnonymousGuestDear Maggie mac:
If he still didn’t contact you, it is 21 days that he didn’t, three weeks.
I re-read your posts on the previous thread and this one, and I think that I now have a better understanding of him and of what happened. I don’t know if you want to read what it is, or if you prefer to not re-visit this thread at all. I hope you do what is right for you. If you want, I will share my thoughts with you.
anita
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