I’ve recently hooked up with an ex partner. Hoping to get back together, he made it clear he doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore. Sad and hurt, I told my friend about it.. But I don’t know if that was the right thing to do… I’m worried she might tell on me or gossip about me. What should I do…?
You told your friend that you hooked up with your ex partner and that he made it clear that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore (does it mean he wants to hook up again but not be in a committed relationship with you?)-
what is it that you are afraid your ex partner will say or do as a result of your friend telling him the above?
My ex doesn’t want to get back together. He just wants to hook up without the relationship part.
After hearing this I cut off from him. And went to a friend of mine to tell her and seek advice. But I’m not sure if telling her was a good idea.. Because I have this constant thought that she will tell people about it. And I feel ashame. But it was troubling me keeping it in all the time.
Was it a mistake? Should I’ve kept quite about it?
It is difficult to be troubled and not talk to someone about it, so you talked to a friend, that is understandable. I hope she doesn’t gossip, doesn’t share with others what you told her in private. If she does, don’t share anything personal with her again.
If you want to share your feelings and seek advice with no danger of gossip, you can do it right here, on your thread, anytime. Without identifying details you are safe here and I for one will be glad to read from you and reply.
You are welcome and please do post again anytime you want. You will not be burdening me. I am here because I like to learn more about me/ people/ life. So when you share you give me the opportunity to learn more.