Dear alexa05:

To get unstuck and fast: daily aerobic exercise, like fast walking in the fresh air, for at least 30 minutes per walk, once or twice a day. Yoga stretches and mindful practice can be very helpful, other exercise- getting physical is a way to take the elevator, so to speak, down from the overthinking brain to the body. Getting physical allows you to take a break from the brain, from overthinking.

anita

Some suggestions that might help for people going through breakup or divorce

Hi Alexandra,
this is the biggie, where all the broken hearted want to be.. and fast.. i felt this myself after a devastating breakup, the kind where you feel as if you have the rug ripped from under you. Its really not possible to accept and move on fast, its a form of grief, and grief has it’s own process. if you read about the stages of grief you’ll likely find that helpful. Everyones experience is different and it’s important to think and feel what have you have been through, lean into and work through the pain.
I journalled about my experience, i talked to friends.. i talked to myself. i was doing well but i was still stuck, i hadnt released myself from it all and that wont happen unless you reach your own acceptance through seeing the situation and circumstance through it’s many perspectives. Believe me there are many. Make no rash decisions.. things will change and shift, time is the only healer, time, perspective and distance i found. If you can put distance between you and your ex love it really does help the healing happen faster, though its incredibly painful to be without them.

I stayed stuck in denial much too long and hurt myself as a result. i was stuck for almost 12 months until Reiki helped me release my emotions and both negative and stale energy surrounding my experiences. You can’t underestimate all of the losses, and how they singularly affect you over time, you lose everything and having so many things to begin at again is what takes the time. First, you must restore faith in yourself, faith in you. Look to you. Look to you first and give yourself all that you need.

Obsession is hard, all that thinking will make you ill, as it did me. Dont rush to get over your ex love, just breathe and take each day as it comes. Mindfulness is good for appreciating all that you have, here and now. You may be single currently, but the next person you are with will be more fantastic than this one and youre appreciation will be more, because of this experience of heartbreak.