September 11, 2018 at 5:53 pm #225237
I am currently working in a company where I have 2 supervisors who are in constant contact with me and my colleagues. However, I think that both people are completely unfit for their positions and lacking the necessary managerial/leadership skills.
Supervisor #1 reacts too emotionally very quickly and takes things personally. He doesn't like it if I ask many questions and tells me to “stop making a fuss”.
He wants us to do things independently yet wants to have full control over everything we do. I have the constant impression that he doesn't trust us and that we can run things very good on our own.
When I'm around him I feel this palpable fearful energy coming from him like a huge wall or wave heading straight at me and I have trouble separating myself from that and in turn get upset/nervous myself.
One time he informed us that a certain procedure had changed after my colleague had asked him about it and after we got in trouble with our second supervisor for changing the procedure he claimed he never told us to change the procedure in the first place. To make things worse he got very upset, emotional and irrational, yelled at me over the phone and didn't want to hear any explanation I gave him. When I hinted at that situation never having been resolved at a later time he defended his actions (!) by blaming me for evading his questions. I was shocked and questioned if he had even listened to one word I had said since I had of course answered all of his questions.
The fact that he went back on his word made me lose trust in him and silently question and over analyze everything he tells us. I now try to think up ways of how, what he tells us could backfire, in an attempt to try to protect my colleagues and myself against any possible mistakes and out of fear of such a situation arising again.
Supervisor #2 is simply malicious. She uses every opportunity she can to make our team look bad and frequently complains to Supervisor #1 who gets emotional and upset and comes down on us like a ton of bricks. He frequently defends and justifies the other supervisor's actions and not once has he acted understanding towards us.
Both of these people seem to think that- or at least act as if nobody can do things better than they do and that they're somehow exempt from making mistakes.
I'm fed up with working under incompetent supervisors and always struggling to remain calm, rational and understanding when they act childish and completely unfit for their position. I know personal development is not a race to the finish line but if people like these don't have the necessary qualifications and lack the necessity to reflect upon themselves they should just not be supervisors and have anyone working under them.
It makes me angry to go to work and resentful of them, yet I don't want to be and would much rather be indifferent. I think I have a too strong desire to have a work I enjoy and this ideal image of working with helpful colleagues and supervisors I can learn from – yet, I am constantly reminded at my current work of what I don't have and it makes me incredibly angry because I think I deserve a work environment in which I'm happy.
I am used to “toughing things out” but honestly I am tired with being upset with work. I would like to either stop giving a damn or stop having a shitty work – either would be fine but I think the former is more realistic.
I am aware that the more energy I invest in this the more upset I become. How can I just drop my negative reaction and become indifferent to my work and unpleasant people in my work environment?
I don't want to dislike these two people and I don't want them to be constantly receiving this bad energy from me.
Thank you for any and all suggestions. 🙂
-CharleySeptember 12, 2018 at 12:58 pm #225383
Dysfunction like what you are experiencing is common, in the workplace, at homes, in governments, anywhere and everywhere. An unfortunate reality. My suggestion: look for another job but expect dysfunction there as well, hopefully less of it. If there is no dysfunction, let it be a very pleasant and welcomed surprise!
Abuse, like yelling, that is unacceptable. The yelling supervisor has to learn to not yell when he is upset. As an employee it is not part of your job to be yelled at! Assert yourself with him and tell him that he has to stop yelling at you.
Again, it is unfortunate, but part of the job of most people is to successfully deal with dysfunctional management as well as dysfunctional co workers while keeping an eye and ear open for better jobs, better positions, better companies, better work environments.
anitaSeptember 23, 2018 at 5:33 pm #226857
I worked in a few dysfunctional work environments. Each was unique in it's dysfunction with perhaps some overlap.
You say that your supervisors are in constant contact with you and your colleagues. ‘Constant Contact', that makes the entire scenario ‘hotter' on a dysfunctional level. How can you find time to breath? How can you find enough moments of personal peace and sanity? If you have to stay , that's one thing. If you can and are willing to move on, by all means, why not? When a work situation is that harmful to our well being , even a drop in pay might be more acceptable to gain more peace.