April 10, 2020 at 10:16 am #348608
My goal in life has been to get some form of education but I can’t find out how and now that this virus has hit I am trying to work out how I’m going to survive.
I had a breakdown during my exams at school due to the pressure. No one was sympathetic and I ended up in a local college studying a generic computer course which was worthless to find work in. I volunteered and pursued chances and couldn’t get a break.
I tried studying again as a mature student but wasn’t able to complete a degree. The experience was an ordeal, it was an extremely poor college/university, the course was supposed to be degree level but the quality wasn’t even GCSE and there was no training for work. I couldn’t get any support then and can’t find any help now.
Since my chance of a degree is lost forever I’ve studied vocational courses such as IT but it is impossible to find training. Anything you study requires you to have some kind of industry connection. And I find anywhere I work hates training and will resist every opportunity to invest in employees so I can’t count on companies.
I cannot get a break with finding work advice. Everyone is aggressive. People say I need to focus on developing what I want even though I’m in no kind of position to be picky or choosy, or they demand I shut up and take responsibility even though I’m really trying to.
Mindsets have completely changed in this generation. Companies and colleges expect that individuals take responsibility for their own learning. Except they still want trained and experienced staff and students in return. I can’t meet that expectation, it’s impossible. I cannot magic inside industry knowledge out of thin air.
Now I am approaching 40 with no family and work customer service jobs to survive. I’m too competent to work in customer service though, it really shows and managers don’t like that. So I need a chance at something or anything. I don’t care about following a passion, I want training and education. I understand now that people have done nothing but mess me about and I wasn’t prepared for it.
Anyway I don’t know why I’m posting but this virus has wrecked everything, shutting down the economy will leave permanent damage to the job market and I honestly have no idea what my future is or how I’m going to survive now. Finding a job is going to be so much harder than ever before. I feel like I’ve ruined everything.April 10, 2020 at 11:40 am #348654
“I feel like I’ve ruined everything”- this pandemic and economical shut down is not your doing, is it?
Job and industry trends is not your doing either, is it?
Please tell me what it is that you ruined.
April 10, 2020 at 2:26 pm #348722
- This reply was modified 6 months, 2 weeks ago by anita.
I should have made such better choices. I had no idea how things worked. Even now I can’t figure out what to do. I was so inexperienced and stupid. I let everyone take advantage of me. I wish I could find a way in life. I feel like I’ve blown it.
Sure bad things happen but it’s still a responsibility as an adult to arrange your own education and find your own opportunities. I have messed that up. I don’t know where to go with myself from here and that’s my fault.April 10, 2020 at 2:59 pm #348744
“I should have made such better choices”- the people that did make better choices are now (and will be as the economy continues to deteriorate) where you are, same place- because of the virus, and because people in powerful positions made poor choices that affect all of us, they made poor choices for all of us.
What I am saying is, no matter how many good choices you would personally made in the past, you, (I and everyone), would still be in bad shape today, because people in positions of power (CEOs of corporations, politicians, and such) in each and every country, make poor choices for all of us, before the pandemic and leading to the pandemic.
“I let everyone take advantage of me”- maybe you let individual people take advantage of you (as I did, in the past), but we are all being taken advantage of, not having a choice about it: from soldiers being sent to fight unnecessary wars, losing their lives or otherwise suffering painful lifetime injuries, to taxpayers working hard all their lives, to see their tax money squandered away by politicians, examples are so many. My point is that the sad, tragic reality is that we are all taken advantage of by people we never met in person, those people in power over our lives.
Forgive yourself for not successfully arranging for your education, for not finding opportunities.. “I have messed that up”- I remember feeling this way, what a torture it was, to feel this way. Now, I am okay with having made the many mistakes I’ve made. I hope you will soon be okay with it as well, knowing you have lots, and lots of company with people making poor choices.
At this point, today, from this moment on, do the best you can, aware of what power you do have, and what power you don’t have. And post here anytime you want to. I’ll be glad to read from you and reply to you.
anitaApril 11, 2020 at 12:15 pm #348854InkyParticipant
I would join the military. Even at your age. They will take care of you to some degree. They do “raise you” again. I saw a tremendous transformation in my son. He is still the same guy, but he carries himself with a confidence that is through the roof.
Then I would have the military help pay for the rest of your education. Get a degree, even if it’s online.
Then I would open my own business. Something small but life affirming. Dog grooming. Baking. Social media consultant.
I would also volunteer in my community, go to a place of worship and even run for a public office. Military rank? Degree? Local business? Public servant? You will rake in those connections. And you will meet quality romantic partners. Soon you will have the stable two income family you crave.
InkyApril 11, 2020 at 3:01 pm #348888
Thank you for your posts, they are rational and thought-provoking. I appreciate the time you have taken to read what I wrote and reply.
If I could live my life again I would have enlisted in the RAF and worked as a computer technician or electronics specialist. Or a computer repair apprenticeship through a company or the army. That ship has long sailed, military or apprenticeships are not an option.
Volunteer orgs have a surprisingly strict regime due to their high applicant rate. And being a business is a joke. I’m a loose end. Anyway it’s not anyone else’s problem. I need to figure this all out.April 11, 2020 at 5:41 pm #348902
You are welcome, Cullotta, and thank you for your kind words. Post again anytime.