Hello Anita and thanks for your answer,

To be honest I have been surprised by his reaction. I thought he would be proud of me…

Today as the Last days he was saying nothing liké Hé was Sad for no reason (3 days now!) so I asked him again to tell me what happen and if it’s Cause of judo.. Hé answer no, everything is good. And even for judo He wants à rematch He was not in good Shape the last time bla bla bla… I Said no it goes to far anyway who care who win? Hé insist and even propose à bet thé looser do the housework part of other during all the rest of the confinment. I was a bit mad I confess he tried to make me do his part because I do almost all the chores alone since the beggining of our relationship…

Because I dont want to stay in that glacial atmosphère I finally Saïd yes… And we had à normal rest of day… And so we’ll do our “rematch” today

Dear Anita:

Oh thank you! 🙂

You are so right to warn us about the injury risk, on that period it would be really bad in many aspect! As any activity there is always an injury risk but if you play safe and slow, with a good warm up, there is no reason that anybody get hurt.

So, for the match, as before we set the mat and have a good warn up, then make couple of exercices and quickly he proposed me to do it. The atmosphere is a bit strange like it s something serious…

It start and he show that he was serious putting a lot of intensity. We hang each other kimono, turn aorund each others. He tried to throw me I landed of my feet 4 times but the 5th he managed to do it and we fall together. He tried to pin me down but I blocked him with my legs. I struggle it was tough because he outweight me so much but i have powerfull legs. Finally I managed to hold his both sleeves and so I raised up my legs and catch his head with its, he direclty surrender. I congratz him, saying i ve been lucky and help him to get up. It was a great round but I ve seen in his eyes he was disappointed…

We prepare for round 2. He got the same intensity trying to throw me but he started to be tired, he mades a mistake so i counter him and he fall on the ground. I go his back so i put him in a hold and make him tap out…

I don’t brag or dance or tease him like the first time. We go for the third one. He seems really tired already… I catch his sleeve really quickly and crotch his leg. Then I lie on him blocking his legs with my feet. He struggle but I manage to catch his both wrist with my hands and I pinned him he can’t move and I count to 5…and win…

He was exhasuted he has lot of sweat on the forehead (maybe time to quit smoking…)and was out of breath. I was sitting astride him and because i knew he cant go (last time if i tried to talk him je just leave the room..) I asked him if we were done he said yes. I said so no silence during days. He said no and was a bit mad I didn’t let him go so I did tease him a bit to make it laugh and showing it s no big deal.. “It s ok to have a kick ass wife there is biggest problem in my life!!”

I finally got a smile from him. He said I didn’t understand . He has neevr been mad at me but mad at him. He was disappointed by himself because of lack of exercices and cigaret…when he was younger he was far better…. we talked seriously about men, women and the image the society give us… I did understand more about him… He want to train to be like how he was before and stop smoking. I told him I help him and together we ll be better person… then I kiss him and let him go…

For now I haven’t ask him about the housework

Hello!

So after his loose, my husband asked me to train him to become the man he was so, the day after the match we started the training and I did give him hard time :p . We jog for 1 hour, then we make some fitness exercices to finish with some flexibility things.

For the housework, at first I was not sure to ask him anything because I know his ego is still bruised and because he didn’t dare making anything macho anymore. But after the first training, as usual, he put out his clothes and let it in the middle of nowhere with his stuff. He probably expect me to, as usual, do it for him. I was pissed off so I asked him gently 2 times that this afternoon he’ll make my chores, the 2 times he ignored me, ok…  So I did wait he finished his shower and enter in the bathroom. The room is small he can’t escape. I told him firmly that during 4 years we are married I do for you almost everyday  vacuum, mop, cleaning dust on furniture, cleaning the 2 bathroom with the toilets, cleaning the kitchen, cook, buy food online, washing dishes and do the laundry. You never helped me even if you just have to  wash the 2cars 1 time per month, fill up the gaz (so nothing during quarantine) 1 time per week and deal with the garbages. I remind him that he dares challenged me and make a bet hoping I’ll do his “part” too. I remind him that I did beat him fair and square!(I didn’t mention he is a soldier while im a ballerina ^^) so now it’s time to pay for the inappropriate behaviour and as punishment he’ll do all my part alone until the end of the year!

He did sulk a bit but made it, in the same time I didnt let him the choice… I realised with his weird questions that it was the first time he use a mop :p :p (dont laugh :p) i did show him and “teach” him how to use each or each product, that was cute :p . To be honest, he doesnt do it greatly I had to check and make him correct when it’s not done well but he does his best.

Now, no need to lie I enjoy a lot my free time :p . For the first time since we are married I did read a book! I took a bath during 1 hour and I finally start to use all the cosmetics I had from the beauty boxes :p I plan to start to learn programing and building a website, I now have time and this is soooo good.

Today, after the train part and his housework session, he told me that it’s unfair, until the end of the year is too long and not what was planned. He told me that when the confinment ll end with the training he’ll be in great shape and he’ll be able to take me down in any kind of sport. I smile.. He proposed me that when the confinment ll be finished we make another match and if he win anybody take again his part.

Hello Anita,

I am confident but I prefer to not be too confident. He seems determined and for him the stakes are high 😉

What did you mean “* didn’t reflect under Topics”?

Hello!

Just a little update because we finally have a date for the end of the confinment and it’ll be the 11th may. So, normally we’ll do our third match a bit before that. I thought hubby would be pretty exiting about it but he didn’t seems to be…but it still want to do it.

I continu to train him 2 hours per day and I have to admit that he has made progress! I do also my yoga on the afternoon and enjoy my new free time. I catch him spy me during my practice two times ^^ . I feel that I am in the best shape of my life but in the same time he did train hard. I did drasticly reduce his smoke. I take his cigarets and he has to ask me to give it when he want to smoke. I always give him but just by that he did reduce it by twice per day!

My practice today 😉

https://drive.google.com/open?id=1mF0C5cuyhtjL1y7IRr__xYV-9gR-N31D

For the chores, he did improve a lot! Im proud of him, it’s not perfect but far better. Hope he’ll do it until the end of the year 🙂 But for the paper administrative work, it’s just not possible. I dont know why maybe brain’s men is just not calibre for that so I do it myself, even his stuff…

So that’s it! In few week we’ll know who will do the chores alone for the next 7 month 🙂