May 26, 2023 at 11:47 am #419232HoneyParticipant
I have found out i am the other women. I honestly don’t know what to do. We’ve been together for 6 months. He has a girlfriend for more than 10 years. I know about it but he lied to me that they are no longer together. There are signs but i was blinded by how much i love him. Her girlfriend found and said every mean things to me. They are no longer together and he wants to be with me. He was begging me to take him back and that he love me. His reason why he couldn’t break up with his girlfriend was because he can’t let her go easily because they have been together for a long time. For 6 months that we’re together. He said that he was thinking all the time who would he choose. That one he love so much or the one he’s been with for a long time but doesn’t have any feelings anymore. I love him so much. I do want to give him a chance but it’s really painful. Should i do it? Would it be worth it? Or should i just leave him?May 26, 2023 at 4:29 pm #419235HelcatParticipant
I’m so sorry to hear about your situation where a man cheated on his long term partner with you without your knowledge. You didn’t deserve the hurtful things his partner said. The situation was not your fault.
You mentioned that you want to give him a chance but it’s very painful. Would you mind explaining a little more about this pain?
Wishing you all the best! 🙏May 27, 2023 at 1:26 am #419277TeeParticipant
I know about it but he lied to me that they are no longer together
Her girlfriend found and said every mean things to me. They are no longer together and he wants to be with me.
It seems to me that they are no longer together only because she found out and broke up with him. Otherwise he would have been still living a double life. Now, when she left him, no wonder he is begging you to take him back and claims that he loves you. But he would have continued lying and cheating on both of you if he hadn’t been discovered.
So my advice is not to trust this man. He is a liar and a cheater. If he was cheating on his girlfriend, he won’t have qualms to cheat on you some time down the line. He has been lying to you already, so that shows you his character.
I love him so much. I do want to give him a chance but it’s really painful.
You may love him, but you don’t want to be anyone’s fool. And he is trying to fool you now, making excuses why he lied. My advice is to leave him and don’t look back.May 28, 2023 at 8:42 pm #419447Sarah Jeanne BrowneModerator
Red flag -dishonesty. It doesn’t matter how he comes to his decision, what he truly wants, or if he values you more. He deceived you. There could be another woman in your relationship in the future. You will never be able to trust him again if he can live a double life like that. Let him go and know your worth.