May 10, 2016 at 5:44 am #104120MefistoParticipant
I’ve been feeling like a huge failure for the last year. My job is so pathetic, you cant even imagine. The only two reasons that make me still work here are impossibility to find anything better and lack of hard work.
First of all, its part-time, 5 hours per day day, so my wage is even less than minimum. I make less than 99 % of people in my city, let alone my peers. Cant afford almost anything that i would like to afford.
Second of all, this job is humiliating. It basically requires me to sit in empty office and change numbers and texts of ads on real estate advertisement sites. When people ask me what my job is, most of the time i lie to them and say something like “im advertisement agent” or “im copywriter” or “im real estate agent”. I do it because if i would tell them straight that my job is changing fucking numbers all day long they would know the humiliating truth. I am 23 years old and have a journalism degree and i still have to do the job that any 5-grade kid can do. But thats one thing. The other thing is my boss. She’s clever and passionate woman, but boy, i hate her ways of managing me so much. Sometimes i get lost in number changing schedule and she likes to criticize me for it. If she doesnt like something she calls me and she always speak to me in bitter sarcastic tone that i hate so goddamn much. It reminds me of my math teacher that i had in school, she had been talking to me like that every time that i coudlnt make homework. So my boss treats me like a child. Cant really blame her i guess, since my job is childish. But i cant have good self-esteem because of it. And i hate her voice, its so repugnant. Even if i would quit, her voice would pursue me in my nightmares.
Why i wont find a better job you would ask? Good question. Because i’ve sent letters to over 100 employers already in the 8 months. I got only one interview invitation and i still got rejected. Nobody wants to hire me because i dont have actual journalistic or copywriting work experience. I’ve been working here 3.5 years already and i get scared every time when i think that i might spend another 3 years of my life in this place. Im wasting my life and my youth for nothing.
Whats the alternative? Going into retail, be a shopping consultant or flip burgers in mcdonalds. But thats something that i would hate even more than my current job, thats for sure. On this job i usually do everything in a matter of few hours and i learn french language or work on my novel or seek for a job for the rest of a day. Thats at least something productive that i can do at this job and thats the main reason why im still working here. The other alternative is to quit this job and become NEET, living on money of my mother. But thats something so terrible that goes beyond the hate for my job.
While i was writing this post, another message came in my mailbox. It was another rejection from another employer. I stopped counting these rejections long time ago. There is no hope, i’ll die here, in this empty office, changing these goddamn numbers for a nidicolous salary.May 10, 2016 at 6:48 am #104123AnonymousGuest
As I was reading your post, I noticed how well you write and enjoyed your writing, although your distress is not enjoyable for me. I am not surprised you are working on a novel: i see the wit, skill and talent.
And this is another thing that appeared to me as I read your post: how amazing it is, how often human potential is not acknowledged or rewarded or put into use for the common good. Your potential, so great, is not put into use for the common good. And it is not rewarded materially.
Please do post again.
anitaMay 10, 2016 at 11:20 pm #104220George El.Participant
I also like your way of writing. it’s very amusing. I can suggest you a few things. How about creating your own blog?
Second, since you are very young, how about travelling the world while doing some voluntary work? there are many opportunities to work abroad on NGOs, EVS in Europe and other organizations. Yes the money is not good, but the experience you get is invaluable, and you get to travel.
Third, since you are a native English speaker you can easily find a job as an English teacher in southeast asia (korea, japan etc).
Maybe that’s not your ideal job, but since the economy is not that good at the moment, perhaps you could try a few things while you are still young, instead of sitting in this not fulfilling job.
GeorgeMay 11, 2016 at 5:19 am #104228bluestarfishParticipant
I was struck by your closing words “Another rejection…There is no hope, i’ll die here..”; it sounds very despairing and a lonely, isolating place to be. Would you consider seeking counselling? It can be helpful to have the support and empathy of another human being during difficult/challenging times.
Wishing you well!May 11, 2016 at 6:05 am #104229pink24Participant
Ugh. Crappy jobs are the worst. I’ve been there before. Many times. What I can tell you, having discontinued my own bout of crappy soul sucking jobs, is that in no way is this job a reflection of who you are or what you are capable of as a person. You are very talented, and this job is simply a means to an end, and that is all. Not every job we have, especially early on in our careers, really showcase our talents. I guess it’s called ‘paying your dues’; seeing just how much misery you can take. Because even when you do find the ‘right’ job, it will have its own set of difficulties. That’s for sure. So if you ask me, you’re pretty smart for keeping this horrific job, since nothing better has come along yet. And I say YET. Because it will. Just because you’ve spent 3.5 years there, doesn’t mean you’ll spend another three years, one year, or even a week. Life has a way of surprising you. (I know, cliche) Just sit tight. A good day will come. It has to.
Pink 🙂May 11, 2016 at 8:31 pm #104311JerrisParticipant
Whoa! Are you me? Seriously. I’m 25 (going to be 26 on the 31st). I have a degree in Political Science, and I work at Sears. I actually started working at Ross Dress for Less in 2014 and left in 2015 to pursue teaching. But the teaching job didn’t work out so well (that job gave me anxiety). I started seeing a therapist in October and she has really helped me. After a few months, I got another job at Sears. I hate this job with a passion lol. I desperately want to get out of retail, but it’s hard. You just never know what employers are looking for. I still live with my parents too. Man, if I could just pack up and travel the world forever, I would be gone in a heartbeat. As far as seeing our peers having great careers, my therapist said that everyone hates something about their job/career and that your timeline is not their timeline. I know, I know; generic advice, but after thinking about it, she’s right. I understand what people are saying that your crappy job is “paying your dues”, but is it wrong to want to have a job/career that you enjoy in your 20s?May 13, 2016 at 11:44 am #104463NorthParticipant
You are worth a lifetime. Do not give up. I have a very steady job, and make good money, I will admit. I have no idea where you are at, but I would strongly suggest leaving that job. you need a job, any job with interaction with people. This exposure to the public will get you a job, albeat start up in something. I strongly urge you to leave. you are inside a cell with no window to the world. A great ‘exposure job’ would be a waiter in a decent restaurant, even daytime. you get business men, for business lunches, and you will be exposed to them and business women, and can begin to network and recruit for opportunities. Being in a cell like you are now is not helping you. This will work. you will wait on someone, and someone will know someone, etc, etc. It will a entry level job of something other than what you are doing. 23 is way too young to do what you are doing, please don’t give up. You have a lifetime of opportunities ahead of you. P.S. this will be a great first step.June 5, 2016 at 4:54 pm #106586Rose TattooParticipant
I’m an editor. If you want to write, I suggest you write articles for websites, or blog about topics that interest you. Go find out what copywriters need to know in order to find employment in your area and for the companies you’re interested in applying to. I suspect that if you have examples of copy you’ve written on various topics in in various styles, that’ll go a long way to showing people what they want to see in order to hire you. Writing is probably one of the easiest things to “get experience” in. You don’t need to have a paying gig to show people that you can write. Be proactive: go find companies that are doing work you like, and figure out what kind of writing they are looking for. Network. Find people in your industry and go talk to them. Ask them what you need to do in order to get work in that field.
I’ve had a 20-year career in book publishing. I got into it because I loved books and didn’t know what else to do with an english degree. My first job in the industry was at a publishing company doing customer service, then I quit because I hated it. I kept applying and kept interviewing….15 interviews, I think, before I got my first real editorial job. Recently, I lost my job and am now freelancing and looking to shift my skill set into a more marketable career. I’m 46.
Two things that I’ve found that are important in today’s job market are flexibility and networking. I understand the despair you’re feeling. But don’t let it drown you. Most of us have to eventually experience the “I hate my job” story, and that’s a sign that we need to look at what we want in a job that we’d love. Good luck!June 16, 2016 at 12:20 pm #107467LauraParticipant
I feel your pain! I had precisely the same situation when I graduated, I ended up doing data entry fo what seemed like eternity, straight A’s and a first class honours degree and working a job so tedious I thought I’d die of boredom, surrounded by people with whom I had absolutely nothing in common with and mostly disliked. If I wanted to I could do all my work in an hour but this then left me with the quandary of how to look busy for the remaining 7 hours. Have faith though my friend, it’ll work out for you in the end. If it helps I found a number of ways to relieve the tedium: photocopy a book which you can then read in complete comfort at your desk while giving the illusion of working, make an event of lunch ie. Take a full lunch break and eat properly. What really saved my life though and prevented me falling into a pit of despair so deep I’d never even get through a job interview if I got one was writing, I started a blog based predominantly on material gleaned from the characters I worked with who to be quite honest were predominantly a bunch of plonkers. I too love to write and when I started to view the workplace as a rich source of character material and inspiration I actually looked forward to going in there every day. I stayed there a year and a bit I think before finally getting into professional work and a real career but I always look back on that time now with a smile and sometimes re-read that blog which even though I say so myself was bloody funny!
Anyway, hang in there, have faith and patience and you’ll get where you need to be. You write well btwOctober 26, 2016 at 9:11 pm #119003XenopusTexParticipant
Trev, would love to see a picture of your Bentley Continental GT(S) twin-turbo W-12 from the get-rich-quick scheme you linked to, which seems to promise such results. Surprised that they just didn’t go all out and show a picture of a Rolls or Maybauch out front of ye olde mansion.
Yes, curiosity got the better of me, so I trusted in my AV/Firewall to take a look at what particular brand of snake oil was being peddled. Reminds me of those slick glossy paper brochures selling “prime” land in Florida that turned out to be in the Everglades…
Mefisto: Early in career jobs can, well, ****. After getting a Bachelor’s and Master’s in the biosciences and a Juris Doctor with Honors degree in law, I wound up selling jewelry while looking for a job in the legal field. Was 31 when I found my first job in the legal field.
I was really depressed too. Went through the full gamut of SSRI anti-depression medications, and saw things on them that would be inspirational to Jefferson Airplane(Starship). The depression wound up impacting my performance in applications, etc. It kind of became a self-fulfilling prophecy. To be brutally honest, it ****ed. I was focusing on things such as time out of school, the “tier” of my law school, etc. The more I focused on how much I hated the situation, the worse things and performance became. You know it’s bad when you misspell your own name on an application.
During that period of time, I probably helped to keep the US Postal service in business, and probably was single-handedly responsible for the deforestation of vast tracks of pulpwood plantations. Feel your pain about the application process.
Ultimately, I decided to look at places where the employers couldn’t afford to be so picky. Where people didn’t care if you graduated from Harvard or Podunk U. People weren’t beating the doors down to come out to “The Middle of Nowhere”(tm) on the Northern Plains. I had never even been to this part of the U.S. before. Suddenly, I saw a wealth of opportunity in places like the Dakotas, Montana, and Wyoming (okay, not quite the Northern Plains). When I mentioned it to some classmates I knew, I got shocked expressions back.
Applied for a job out in what is colloquially known as BFE, and flew from Florida for the interview. The classmates I knew thought I was nuts, the people where I had been working thought I was nuts, even people I ran into out here thought I was nuts for moving from Florida to the land of -30F and below winters. Guess what? It worked.
I don’t know if you are in the US or elsewhere. What I do know is that sometimes, when things don’t seem to be going the way you want them to, you need to look for opportunities where others don’t. If you are in the US, I would strongly suggest looking at the Dakotas, Montana, Wyoming. Even with the lower oil prices there is still economic activity out here, and there are still jobs of all sorts. Heck, even the local newspaper out here has been looking to fill various staff positions for the last year-and-a-half.October 29, 2016 at 3:24 pm #119166Ane KrstevskaParticipant
You just have to close your eyes for 5 seconds, and ask yourself: Are you thrilled about your job? Are you waking up excited about getting to work? Are you happy doing whatever it is that you do? If the answer is negative, then it is no lie that the time has come for you to get serious and change your career.
We all have times when we get frustrated with our jobs, but will things improve if you choose to change your career? Think about this.
And maybe you have reached a point in your working life when you need a change, and desperately need a new challenge. If this is the case, then you should do something about it. Don’t just do what it seems to be the right thing to do at the moment, or do whatever other expect from you. Take some time and figure it out on your own.
To help you decide whether you should change your career or not, we want to share three frameworks with you. These frames will give you clarity over the big decisions and help you make the right choice. I recently blogged about this: http://www.selfdevelopshop.com/how-to-decide-to-change-your-career/February 16, 2017 at 10:47 am #127867Alex LeMayParticipant
Wow! this rings so true. I had the same experience many times until I finally had to get to the root of why I couldn’t eject myself from a job I hated. Like others who responded to it, it can feel daunting.
I finally figured out that having my livelihood bound to a single source of income and at the discretion of someone I barely knew outside of work was frankly… well, insane. When I came to understand that fully, and took real steps to change I found some real peace. It was only then that I was able to find a life full of choice, freedom and a ton of travel. I make more money than I ever have and I know that who I am and what I do for a living brings true value to my life, the lives of my family and to other people who want the same thing.
I found a way to have several incomes that played to my strengths and to the way I wanted to live my life. Now should one of those things change, I never need to fear that I’ll be left out in the cold because I still have the other means of generating a paycheck. So maybe my advice to you, if you haven’t already done so is find several things to do rather than one. I for example freelance doing some video work. I sell stock video footage and still photos online and I teach other people how to how to do those things too. So having three incomes puts me in a place of real freedom without the pressure of relying on a single job.
I hope that helps and I would love to hear where you are now. The world needs your authentic and true voice I hope we get to hear more! from you.