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April 8, 2025 at 11:51 am #444718
Scw
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Is this even possible?
I have had some life-awareness recently. It’s not that I have been unaware, but more like in denial about the true nature of my 20+ year marriage. Although it has been happy for the most part, I now am feeling I buried the bad, and it is resurfacing in flood-like waves. Why?? It feels divinely inspired (I had a recent spiritual experience as well, to further add to this story)and shortly after this began, I had waves of emotion for a man I loved first in my life. This has been a complete surprise to me. I have him coming in my dreams. Can a soul mate be established early in your life? I have honestly not thought of him in years. Where does this come from?
I made contact with him recently. We had a truly remarkable encounter. It has not made me want to flee my marriage, and this man is not expecting me to. Quite the contrary. We both acknowledged a deep love for each other that has remained all of these years, and feel we are soul mates. Has anyone ever experienced this before?What if I tell u I experience almost the exact same thing!!! Can we pm or anything?
April 8, 2025 at 12:38 pm #444724anita
ParticipantDear Scw:
The original poster of this thread, whom you quoted, deleted her account sometime in 2014, more than 10 years ago, so I doubt she will be reading your post of today. Also, there is no PM option here.
If you would like to share more about your situation, thoughts and feelings, you are welcome to do it here, and I, for one, would be glad to read and reply.
* Dear Friend: I somehow missed your post of only 5 days ago. Are you still here, reading this? Please let me know.
anita
April 10, 2025 at 1:53 am #444760Scw
ParticipantThanks Anita for your kind reply. I have this similar weird things happened to me. I had a colleague whom we worked tgt for 9 months. He was treating me with extraordinary care and I think I felt he was special but I didn’t know why. In between that 10 years we sent new year greetings to one another, nothing else. Recently he added me on social media, and sent me new year greetings again after few years of disconnection. Since that day I couldn’t stop thinking about him. From thinking to missing to longing to yearning.. and even crying. It’s like something has been awakened and I suddenly noticed I have been loving him but I buried it.I check the astrology chart and so found that we had a lot of karmic related and soul/ spiritual connection aspects. I dreamed of him a lot and sometimes there are waves of emotion hitting me hard like I can suddenly cry out of nowhere. I practise Buddhism. To me it seems like some past life memories popping up.when I cry it wasn’t like a cry from this life but some kind of ache from the past. I wonder what is happening and whether anyone experience the same.
April 10, 2025 at 10:13 am #444774anita
ParticipantDear Scw:
You are very welcome. What you’re experiencing sounds incredibly intense and deeply personal—a wave of emotions that almost seems to have caught you off guard. It’s understandable to feel bewildered when such strong feelings surface seemingly out of nowhere.
Whether this emotional connection with this man stems from a past-life bond or subconscious emotions surfacing from this life, the intensity you feel is real and worth exploring.
The way you describe your experience—thinking, missing, longing, yearning, crying—suggests that something within you has been awakened, something perhaps buried or unprocessed. Sometimes, longing for someone isn’t just about them—it’s about a longing for something lost in ourselves or an ache for a time in our past that we cannot undo.
It happens that emotions lie dormant within us—feelings we don’t fully recognize or process at the time—but when something triggers them, they resurface with surprising intensity.
It’s possible that part of this experience is linked to fantasy or idealization. Since your interactions with him were limited over the years, your mind may have filled in the gaps, creating an idealized connection that feels stronger than the reality of your relationship.
You wrote, “From thinking to missing to longing to yearning.”- If in this lifetime, you’ve been yearning for deep emotional connection, excitement, or meaning, your mind might have attached those feelings to him, making your emotions feel intense and even spiritual.
Maybe this is a subconscious attempt to resolve something from this life. You wrote, “He was treating me with extraordinary care and I think I felt he was special but I didn’t know why.”- maybe what needs to be resolved is the absence of extraordinary care in childhood, or the loss of that extraordinary care sometime along the way?
Regardless of the reason, your emotions are valid, and there’s no right or wrong way to feel. What matters is giving yourself time and space to process them, without pressure to define or act on them right away. You’re not alone in experiencing sudden emotional awakenings—many people go through similar situations when something from their past unexpectedly resurfaces.
anita
April 11, 2025 at 5:21 pm #444817Scw
ParticipantDear Anita,
Thank you so much for taking your time and effort to reply. 🙂
This is something I seriously couldn’t understand. I’m living a good life.. I get lots of love and care in my life. So I guess it is not due to lack of love or needing someone to fill the void. I do have a stable partner.
But his reappearance in my life.. triggered something I couldn’t explain. Even pain. When nothing seems to happen in this life. It felt very much like some past life things. I’m not sure if you believe in astrology.. I’m 100% into it but I see it as a guideline as it somehow points the relation between two or how is the basic guide present for one. There are a lot of karmic related aspects between us.So I wonder if it reawakens something in the past. Coz I’m also practising Buddhism, chanting and etc, im quite sensitive to energy.
Anyway, thanks for acknowledging. Maybe I will take more time to process my emotions and see how it goes.
Much appreciated 😊
Regards,
ScwApril 11, 2025 at 7:45 pm #444818anita
ParticipantDear Scw:
You are very welcome! I would like to reply further in the next day or two, when I have the time to give this my full attention. Please feel free to add anything you would like to add before I return to you.
anita
April 12, 2025 at 6:25 am #444821anita
ParticipantDear Scw:
Thank you for sharing your thoughts so openly. It’s clear that this experience has stirred something deep within you, and I can sense how much you’re trying to make sense of these emotions and their origins.
The fact that you feel so strongly—even when there was no major event in this life that explains it—suggests that there may be something deeper at play, whether spiritually, energetically, or emotionally.
Processing emotions, especially ones that seem to come from somewhere beyond this lifetime, can take time. Giving yourself space to sit with them, observe them, and allow them to unfold naturally sounds like a gentle and mindful approach.
I just looked it up and read that there are several online resources that explore karmic connections, past life emotions, and spiritual insights through Buddhism and astrology, two of which are: * Exploring Karmic Astrology – This resource offers insights into karmic lessons, astrology charts, and spiritual connections, and * Understanding Karmic Relationships – This article explores the emotional intensity of karmic relationships, explaining how unresolved past experiences can manifest in present-day connections.
Whatever this experience means for you, I hope it brings clarity and deeper understanding as you navigate it. Wishing you peace as you reflect and process—take all the time you need. 💙
anita
April 17, 2025 at 6:27 am #444932Scw
ParticipantDear Anita
Oh thank you so much. And I truly appreciate your kind understanding on my situation. Thanks for being so supportive and not patronizing me for having such emotional waves and pain. I am slowly healing now.. although I wonder why it took 10 years and just a brief add on fb can bring so much pain and longing when nothing actually happened in the past. I will look into the info you recommended. Truly appreciate your sharing. 🙂 lots of love 💕
Scw
April 17, 2025 at 9:26 am #444945anita
ParticipantDear Scw:
Thank you for your kind words. It means a lot to know that you feel supported and understood—your emotions are absolutely valid, and healing is such a personal journey. Sometimes, unexpected moments can stir deep feelings, even when the past itself seems uneventful, and that just speaks to the complexity of what we carry inside us.
I’m really glad you’re slowly finding healing, and I hope exploring the resources brings some additional insight and peace. No rush—just take things at the pace that feels right for you. Sending lots of love your way. 💕
anita
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