Hi Garrett,
Here is my advice for what it is worth. I believe that there are people we find ourselves with who simply are not healthy for us to be around. This does not mean that one is bad or good, right or wrong, it is just that for some reason this other person causes thoughts and feelings in us that are not healthy. There is something in our minds or souls that react negatively with certain people for whatever reason. This may or may not be the case with you but if it is, I suggest you find another place to live and cut the communication with this person way down or even discontinue it.
I had a situation with someone I really liked but I could not communicate with this person. Every time I tried to talk to her my communication never got through and I was left feeling misunderstood. It caused me pain and confusion and I found myself spinning. This person was not bad, she was a good person but for whatever reason she caused that reaction in me. I had no choice but to cut off communication with her. It was really hard because I adored her but it was necessary for my survival.
If this is happening to you, do not try to explain it to the other person, he will likely not understand based on his previous reactions. Just find a new place, give a plausible excuse that does not make the other person wrong and pull away.
From my experience, when we find ourselves driven to do harmful things to ourselves, there is a person or a situation that causes it in us. Sometimes the person is evil and doing and saying abusive things but sometimes they are not. It is just a reaction.
This may or may not be true for you so take what you can use from this and I hope it gives you peace.
Good luck with your situation.
XO Chris

@ the nocturnal panic attack, I started having those in college as well. It’s called sleep paralysis. I hate when it happens. I think I actually had a mini one this morning when trying to wake up. I had to go on anxiety medicine from stress and it truly helps a lot. I tried a few different ones and Klonopin helped the best. I know how scary sleep paralysis can be but it doesnt actually physically hurt you. You should visit your doctor or therapist though to learn some stress coping skills ( I am currently in group therapy). Chris Ellis are situations are similar as well! Please look at my latest post and give me some adivice 🙂 I would appreciate it. Garret I think you should give yourself space from your friend and not blame yourself for thier issues. If they were healthier the would at least give you a respectful response to your concerns. Just know that you tried to be a good friend and that you are not to blame for your friends unhappiness or inability to communicate. i know that sometimes we feel as though in some relationships we give, give give, and the other person just takes, takes, takes. I’ve learned that those are called unbalanced relationships and we do not deserve to be in them. Its hard like Chris Ellis said because it doesnt mean they are not good people but it means that they are not recipricating the kind of love and respect that you need. Which is especially hard if you spend so much energy trying to make them happy or solve their issues. Just use that energy to take care of yourself. If your friend cares they will reach out to you. If not then you should just let them go. You need someone in your life who is an asset NOT a liability.

Garret,

Take this into consideration: he, like you, is imperfect. Do not expect him to have the best of social etiquette. Also, consider that, like you again, he may have his own set of contemplations hence the ‘distancing’. Stay a caring and considerate friend and give him the time he needs to figure things out. Just inform him that you’re there if he needs to talk and in the meantime concentrate on your own life and loves. Best of luck to you.

Peace