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I LEFT A JOB I LOVE ONLY TO BE MISERABLE WHATS WRONG WITH ME

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    Amby
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    My name is Amber I’m 22 yrs old I haven’t had the best of luck with work. I worked a few jobs over my career most either for low pay or bad managers. I found a job at 20 that I loved great people, good pay but like anything it had a few drawbacks only 2 weeks vacation forever and no real room for growth. Also I had been told in my interview I would receive benefits such as health insurance however upon employment I was told this would no longer be made available to me as they were discarding the health plan so I was given a dollar raise to help me buy my own insurance plan. However I later found out that previous employees were still keeping there company bought plan even though I was told this would not be the case. But I was ok with this as I stated it was a great place to work, everyone was very understanding and friendly. I had a hour long lunch break and I had the freedom to work and take breaks as I saw fit. Recently this job ran into some financial hardships I noticed my hours were shorter inexplicably, I asked my supervisor for more hours to which she stated that could work I took this to mean maybe, when I went home and told my family. They seemed to think that I should look around to see if theirs anything else I like out there. I found a job at another office with Health Insurance Dental Insurance Life Insurance 3 weeks PTO Free Gym Membership 401K with Profit Sharing and what seemed to be very friendly people. I was torn this place seemed to offer a lot of benefits that I couldn’t simply ignore. Also my current job was going through a transition as they were having some trouble with money, I thought perhaps it might make sense to work with a larger office with more stability and perks. I have now been working there for 2 days they do not take breaks which I was aware of and fine with as they had assured me I would take lunch throughout the day at my desk. However I was unaware of the fact that my cell phone would be off limits to me, meaning I suppose I thought I would have the freedom to occasionally check in at home or escape work for a minute or two by sending a quick text I realize now that, this job may be far out of my league. I go in sit at my desk and work for 8hours straight no lunch no contact with the outside world no break no anything. Often times I find myself spacing out I feel like everyone needs at least a small break to stay productive. Which leads me back to my original question I’m so stupid I had a good thing, I had so much freedom, I had my friends, I had time to myself. Maybe things weren’t perfect but I could go to work everyday and have fun now I go to work thinking what if they catch me checking my email and fire me. I should have never left I asked for my job back the other day just to see if my position had been filled to which my supervisor stated they were probably going to hire the girl they interviewed yesterday I told her I wanted to see if I could work out a way back but I got no response. Why do I do this to myself everyone advised me to take this job and now I’m so unhappy I should have never listened sure this job has its perks but its not worth being unhappy.

    #75759
    Inky
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    Hi Amby,

    Well, I mean, who wouldn’t take the second job sight unseen?? The first place was taking advantage of your youth/inexperience with the healthcare bull crap which is huge. HUGE!!

    I would use this current job as a platform to find something better. The benefits really do matter. Like I’d be all over that gym membership LOL! And you don’t “need” health insurance ~ until you suddenly do. My neighbors almost went bankrupt without it. One intestinal problem = $15,000, thank you!

    What do the older people who have been there a while do? I bet they use their cell phones and check email. I bet they walk around the hallways/outside/have a “restroom” break. I doubt everyone’s a perfect cubicle slave.

    So don’t beat yourself up about the first job, and view this job as temporary. Make the best of it while finding something else.

    Inky

    #75763
    Jordan
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    I think you should talk with your employer and see exactly what is expected, and talk with other fellow workers to see what they do. I had an internship a few years back that seemed somewhat similar. I would work in a desk for 8hours per day, no scheduled coffee breaks, and expected to eat my lunch at my desk. What I did was understand what my role was and what I had to do. I found out that as long as I met deadlines I would have some flexibility. I would bring a book (I love reading) and would take breaks every so often to do some reading. If it was nice out I would go for a walk. Because I always delivered quality work on time no one really complained about me doing this.

    And guess what… Many other people did this. Even though there was no scheduled breaks, I found out that people would occasionaly go for walks and do stuff at work.

    The truth of the matter is that a shift is happening in the work place. Longer hours and less pay is starting to become the norm. I would suggest you try to find some balance with your current work. Maybe negotiate over a few things. Realistically, they shouldn’t care as long as you are productive. And you are right… you need breaks to be productive.

    #75766
    Amby
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    Thanks everyone its only been a few days that i have been there. Im trying to get a sense as to how others do things its hard to imagine no one taking small breaks at the office, the administrator had told me I couldn’t use my cell however most everyone herself included keeps it on their desk and I’ve seen them occasionally check it or text, another employee went out to the local cafe to get a drink so my hope is there is some wiggle room, I’m just to new at the moment, I would like to make this job work i think in the long term it could be good for me. At the same time i want to keep my sanity I’m thinking about bringing up my concerns to another employee and seeing how they cope with it, thank you both for being so understanding and answering my question for me and giving me some peace of mind, i was just so afraid of making a mistake…. Especially when i think about all the freedom at my previous job : / but i am going to keep my options open as well!

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