I’m 26 years old. Girl. Haven’t got into any relationship in my whole life. The last guy that I’ve liked, we didn’t talk for 2 years because we both got on with our lives after going on separate pathways. We just didn’t bother and I tried to tell myself to focus on my career and others until recently he showed up in my girl best friend’s facebook post.

With my girl best friend, we started out as best friends. It has been 7 years since we know each other. I treat her as my best friend, but recently, she has been asking me to become her girlfriend. Our friendship is too precious so ending it is not in the option. But I’ve never been in a relationship with anyone so I don’t see myself in a relationship with her. She suggested in a joking manner to go get a heterosexual relationship and have my heart broken then I would accept her and be with her afterwards.

I don’t mind being with her for the rest of my life. But I know something is out of control and I might meet someone anytime. My consideration is that I shouldn’t be leading her on. I told her I’m still waiting for somebody to come into my life and she replies that she is willing to wait for me on several occasions. So my question is, what would you do, if you are hopeless with guys, and your best friend, who is compatible with you in every aspect of life (the perfect soulmate) wants you to choose her? You are torn between an imaginary boyfriend that doesn’t exist (but might appear anytime), and a same-sex best friend whom you know you now will be a reliable company, support and trustworthy partner for the long coming.