Dear CarpeDiem:

Did I understand  correctly: eight months ago and before you had an amazing social life, a decent relationship with a woman, good friends, enough money. Then you graduated and immediately, within a month or so, lost your social life, your friends, your girlfriends and money? You are now broke and unemployed.

Questions: can you look for suitable employment, using your Master Degree? If not in your location, will it make sense for you to move?

Regarding your ex girlfriend: you wrote that you were mean to her- was that after you graduated or before, can you elaborate?

anita

Dear CarpeDiem:

Reads like you are in a tough spot right now.

You wrote that your ex girlfriend was mean to you. How was she mean to you?

anita

Dear CarpeDiem:

It is difficult to accept… difficult, present life circumstances: living in a hostel, without friends, without family support, without a girlfriend, a job, money. What we do, in difficult present circumstances is look for comfort in memories and in fantasies. We hold on to the past so to feel better now.

The problem with it is that following moments of warmth and comfort in memories (past that our brain remembers better than it was, for the purpose of finding comfort in it), is that the gap is great, the gap between what-is and what was, or what we imagine was.

The more you think of how wonderful things were, the more terrible things now look.

Better let go of the past. Let go of all that was. See what-is for what it is. This is your life now.

Now, think where you go from here. A job, I am thinking, some kind of income producing job so that you can have enough money to move to a place where you can get a better job.

anita

You are welcome, CarpeDiem. Post again, anytime.

anita