Harmilap

I feel your pain. I was madly in love with my ex gf. I had a hope for one year that we might be together post our break up.
Last week I got to know that she is dating a guy I know. I am going through envy, jealous and heart ache. I have decided to leave this city in order to help me move on but I started some healthy habits a while ago which I know if I continue, I will be better in future

1) I am trying to accept the reality that is the present
2) I am trying not to take things too personally

3) I meditate ( I have been doing this on and off for last 45 days and I will trying to keep it for good in my schedule)
4) I pray for everyone, even those who hurt me

5) I wake up early in order to get things done

5 years in a long time to think about someone. Did you date anyone in the meantime?

Hey Matt
Can I ask how old are you?
Yes, I believe that being physically fit might help you to be stronger but being emotional is a different thing. Do you have any close friends with whom you can confide anything?

Hi Corticality,

You and I are in the same boat. I didnt date my ex for 8 years like you did but I really really loved (or still love) her after we broke up. She just told me few days ago that she has no feelings for me. I got to know that he is coming back to the city where I live for a while and I texted her (we are in touch but only because she knows that I was going through depression and loneliness).

I think I am still depressed but to some lesser extent. I really don’t know what advice I can give you but what really helped me a bit is to be aware that it is over and it is probably a done deal. She will never come back. I cried a lot…a lot really which I feel helped at some level. I am focusing on other things like exercising, slowly trying to meet new people ( I used to love meeting new people), focusing to improve myself. Maybe you always wanted to reduce your coffee or quit smoking or take up a new hobby.
What Mark said is really correct. You can start writing a journal of what mistakes you did which you can try not to repeat again.

Keep writing every time you feel down…we are here for you

• This reply was modified 6 years, 2 months ago by CarpeDiem.

Absolutely
I agree. Anita and Eliana are really here to help people out…I am amazed by their help 🙂

Agreed with Inky
besides that you can take some steps to this loneliness
Meet new people and make right friends who actually care for you…

Hey Rishabh,

You are a perfect age to completely change over. I am saying this as a compliment that you are young and you do kind of have many opportunities in the future. I always say that age is just a number and I really believe in that but I feel being young has certain privileges 🙂

That being said, you can work on yourself to become more extrovert so that you can meet new people. Meet travelers if you can, host someone or attend events in your city
Focus on your studies when you are at home this way you will be more efficient
If your friends do not call, then you can call them and ask them to meet or have a tea or a beer
When you feel lonely or depressed, ask yourself if you are really something to change that situation or just complaining about it..I know many times we do something about it and we do not get the result like we wanted. I remember you posted something about your ex gf and how you missed her
Maybe go to a gym or work out at home if you cant afford
Go for a jog
Read new books
Or watch a tv series ( it will take your mind off for sometimes but not all the time)

I know how you feel, I am going through kind of same phase but please don’t lose hope and keep on trying, you never know…

Dear Eliana,

Have you tried Ayuerveda yet? I know you have money issues but maybe some natural treatments might help you. I am not at all expert on this field but I really want you to recover from it. It must be really tough to live in health condition like this.