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  • January 16, 2018 at 5:03 am #186965
    RISHABH
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    From past 1 year am very lonely,these days i have started to feel very very depressed and lonely, i have no one to share my problems with am so very alone,have no one whom i can call any time
    to help me out also am not very good at making friends,things have changed since last 1 year and earlier i used to get so many calls from my friends and many people,
    i loved to listen them help them etc but then now i always have a look at the phone and become dissapointed,no one cares for anyone.Also i have developed a problem
    of stress, i get so very tensed regarding my future and i always think am a useless person on this planet and can do nothing.I get really tensed and i overthink a
    lot and really get sad bout my future i dont know how to do,how to overcome each day i see my fathers face and he expects a lot from me,i dont want to dissapoint
    him he loves me very much and i want to do something for him,but then am so alone so tensed,so confused,so stressed sometimes situations worsens. I dont know what
    will i do in my future, i cant concentrate on a specific thing i get tired very easily,i waste so much of my precious time being at home and doing nothing also i
    dont feel like meeting anybody else cause i have realised this is a very cruel world each one out there dont care for a specific person like people only call someone
    when they want something from them like earlier i used to get so many calls regarding doubts in a particular subject but then when someone is in a bad situation no
    one really cares,now no one calls as if no relation ever existed but still i always ask WHY?ONLY ME i truely suffering from immense lonliness,i always stood ahead of
    everyone in my class then teachers used to praise me,talk with me etc then suddenly my performance degraded then no one was near me i dont know why in the world
    do teachers have such attitude of (I DONT CARE) they shoul show the way and guide us but they think they r above everyone. Who am i? i always think i have changed
    completely veryy lonelyyy am an 18 year old boy who is finding himselff please help anyone

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    January 16, 2018 at 5:34 am #186977
    CarpeDiem
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    Hey Rishabh,

    You are a perfect age to completely change over. I am saying this as a compliment that you are young and you do kind of have many opportunities in the future. I always say that age is just a number and I really believe in that but I feel being young has certain privileges 🙂

    That being said, you can work on yourself to become more extrovert so that you can meet new people. Meet travelers if you can, host someone or attend events in your city
    Focus on your studies when you are at home this way you will be more efficient
    If your friends do not call, then you can call them and ask them to meet or have a tea or a beer
    When you feel lonely or depressed, ask yourself if you are really something to change that situation or just complaining about it..I know many times we do something about it and we do not get the result like we wanted. I remember you posted something about your ex gf and how you missed her
    Maybe go to a gym or work out at home if you cant afford
    Go for a jog
    Read new books
    Or watch a tv series ( it will take your mind off for sometimes but not all the time)

    I know how you feel, I am going through kind of same phase but please don’t lose hope and keep on trying, you never know…

    January 16, 2018 at 6:30 am #186989
    Eliana
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    Hi Rishabh,

    I’m sorry to hear you are going through a difficult time. I agree, with social media, smartphones, etc..it seems we have lost “the human touch”. Making people feel even more isolated, lonely and sad. I too suffer from this. I wish Facebook, social media has never been invented. I’m probably quite a bit older than you, but I miss the 70’s and 80’s where there was actually people who would come over. We would all sit out on the back porch, singing songs, someone would play the guitar, we would have cookouts, or have smores. Then we would all go inside and play card or board games..this was several nights a week. Usually at a different persons house. No one “texted, e-mailed, or even called” back then..we would just show up at a neighbor’s house. Everything was an open invitstion. Children would play outside all day. I don’t remember hearing alot about drugs, guns, violence. Back then people left their car doors unlocked. Times were so much simpler, more communication and interaction, fun, laughter, happiness etc. Now, everything is different. It’s a different world. How I miss those decades.

    I would not put too much pressure on yourself and worry about the future, because that robs you of enjoying the things of “now”. Try to enjoy the “little” things, take in a nice sunset, go for a walk, bring your mind back from negative thoughts and worry back to the present. You have no control over the future. Live your life for you, not your parents, father. You have no one to please but yourself, it’s your life, not theirs.

    Are there any hobbies you enjoy? Any way you can start a small group who share the same interests and passions as you, to make new friends? Try to find some purpose in your life that will give you fulfillment. Friends and things are only temporary. They can’t make us happy. They come and go out of our lives. We have to find our inner peace and happiness. Happiness is not something we “always” have to have. We can just enjoy beauty, nature, following our passion, hobbies, what did you like doing as a child? Painting? Drawing? Playing board games? Sometimes when we get our inner child back and do things we once enjoyed doing will bring us purpose and fulfillment. Please post again with your thoughts.

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