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  • May 2, 2019 at 10:36 am #292159
    Omar
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    I met a girl on facebook and we started texting. On the first few days we got to know lots of things about each others’ personality, likes and dislikes. We were surprised to find out lots and lots of things in common between us. We were simply enjoying it. We were so serious about continuing together as we actually met in a group that’s for marriage. We even started talking about how our life would look like in future.

    All the above happened in a period of 2 weeks where we were texting, calling and video calling once. Then, suddenly, I found out that she blocked me. I just felt confused as up to the last text we had in between us everything was going great.

    I should mention that she is a single mom due to a relationship ended 2 years ago. She also had another relationship after that which lasted for 9 months and the guy ran away.

    Also wanted to mention that she is a kind of girl that likes the guy to show her how interested he is in her ( I know this from a memory she posted on her wall on fb that says: Always remember, someone’s effort is a reflection of their interest in you)

    Why would she do that?

    How should I handle this?

    I need a girl to explain to me please. specially if you’re from the US.

    I really care about her and want things to work out as I believe we’re the best for each other.

    Thanks for your help.

    May 2, 2019 at 11:45 am #292167
    Anonymous
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    Dear Omar:

    This woman is a single mother. Her relationship with her child’s father ended two  years ago. Within the last two years she had a nine month relationship that ended when “the guy ran away”. You met her online “in a group that’s for marriage”.

    You communicated online/ via texting for two weeks, had a lot  in common, talked some about a future together, “everything was going great”, and then she blocked you.

    She posted once on her fb wall: “Always remember, someone’s effort is a reflection of their interest in you”.

    I understand that you are upset that she blocked you, of course you are upset.

    Why did she block you, you asked. My answer: she blocked you because she wanted to no longer communicate with you and it was easier for her to block you than to tell you about it.

    Why did she want to no longer communicate with you-

    Maybe the father of her child is back into her life, maybe he made some effort and she appreciated that effort enough to get back together with him. Maybe it is her recent boyfriend who ran away from her, maybe he returned and she appreciated his effort. Maybe it is another man that she communicated with online at the same time she communicated with you. And maybe it is some other reason.

    Two weeks is a very short time to get to know a person, in person and online. You asked how to handle it. What do you mean by handling it, I mean, if she blocked you, you can’t contact her, correct? And if you could contact her, what will be your purpose?

    anita

    May 2, 2019 at 2:34 pm #292213
    Omar
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    Thanks so much for your response,

    I came to know that:

    1. The biological father is not back because he actually ran away since he knew that she was pregnant at the first place and wanted her to have an abortion but she bravely refused. ( Totally love this about her)

    2. The guy that she was with for nine month didn’t return because he is out of the country and expressed to her that he don’t want to continue in this relationship and he don’t want her son.

    My Question is:

    Don’t you think that blocking me is a kind of a test for me by her to find out if I’m serious and truly interested in her?

    we actually once discussed the book called “five love languages” and she told me that he love language is she needs to see evidence of love ( actions) not only words and that’s way I want to keep communicating with her because I’m really interested in her.

     

    You know when you’ve been searching for someone specific and finally finding them after YEARS of looking for them,

    Well,that’s exactly the case here.

     

    Thanks again

    May 2, 2019 at 2:58 pm #292249
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Omar:

    You are welcome. Reads to me that you like her very much, that you are very interested in her.

    Seems like the two possibilities I brought up are not what happened, and not the reasons why she blocked you. You brought up the possibility that she is testing you, to see if you will take the actions to pursue you even though she blocked you. I didn’t think of this possibility.

    Let’s look at it: is there any way for you to contact her now that you are blocked?

    anita

    May 2, 2019 at 4:05 pm #292265
    Omar
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    When she blocked me I didn’t realize it at the beginning but was so worried about her. I thought something bad could have  happened to her. I tried to get her work number from the internet but couldn’t. The second possibility for me is too reach out to her FB friends asking if they know her personally and have her phone number. I managed to get it from one of them so, I can reach out to her this way.

    Please update

    May 2, 2019 at 6:42 pm #292273
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Omar:

    Clearly she blocked you and she did it intentionally.

    A reasonable woman will not block a man so to test him, hoping he will track her down, do  PI (Private Investigative) work and find out where she lives, where she works, etc. These things are invading a person’s privacy and are unethical.

    I would say that it is not a good idea to call her.

    I know this is upsetting for you, but seems to me that she doesn’t want to have contact with you, for whatever reason. If you are going to track her down, you will be more of a stalker, and not at all a hero.

    I will be away from the computer and back in about 12 hours from now.

    anita

    May 3, 2019 at 5:15 am #292305
    Lali
    Participant

    I feel like she has not come out from her past relationship and not ready for new one from this behaviour. Hitting the wrong spot. If you are truly interested , let her go. She will come back to you if she is yours.  If she doesn’t come back. Then she never meant for you. We can’t understand person nature in 2 weeks conversation over online. True bonding is like a tree and it needs time to grow.

    May 3, 2019 at 5:34 am #292307
    JayJay
    Participant

    I agree with all Anita says above.

    A 2-week conversation is simply that – a conversation. You might have found some things in common, but how can you possibly tell, from just the above communication, that this is the right woman for you?

    So you were chatting away and she blocked you. You think this is some kind of a test… I think it’s more that this person is playing silly games. TBH, you don’t even know if she was actually just pretending to like the same things as you.

    Don’t call her, like Anita says, that’s going along the lines of stalking. If she didn’t give you her phone number herself, then she obviously didn’t want you to have it. Or call her.

    Move on.

    best wishes, Jay

    May 4, 2019 at 4:48 pm #292397
    Omar
    Participant

    Thanks guys for the replies

    truly appreciated

    May 5, 2019 at 7:20 am #292427
    Anonymous
    Guest

    You are welcome, Omar. Post again anytime you want to.

    anita

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