Since I promised to stay out of James thread, I will post a comment about Anita’s post in “Real spirituality”.

Liked, Anita said, “On the other hand, many people shut down when confronted harshly. A softer tone invites curiosity instead of defensiveness. Gentle guidance often builds trust and long-term change, whereas hostility can alienate. People often respond more deeply to kindness than accusation, especially in context of personal growth. For most people, a calmer reflective tone is more likely to reach the heart, build trust, and inspire lasting transformation.”

I am sorry that James is feeling less loved here that would makes him declare that he would leave tinybudda. It will be a loss. I am guessing he is feeling hurt. And for that, I am truly sorry.