February 17, 2018 at 3:11 pm #193027SelenaParticipant
I am on the verge of just going to a homeless shelter because I am living with my “sister” who is over 21 years old and feels the need to bully and demean others verbally. She has been doing this since I was in middle school and even younger. When I was younger she would climb on top of me and smack me and even hit me and public. And I did nothing because I was a defenseless young girl who barely even spoke. Her and my cousin would gang up on me and bully me, when all I wanted to do was be accepted. I never wanted to fight or get bullied being younger. But they continued to attack me because I was so weak and defenseless. So I of course never said anything and did not speak out about the abuse. Until one day we were driving back home, I told my family that my cousin has been verbally abusing me and speaking negative words under her breath about me so only I could hear it, because she knew I was the only one who could hear it.
Of course my family did not give a shit as they just laughed and said, my cousin is just”aggressive” sometimes. And it was actually my fault because I am the disrespectful one , even though I was completely mute. So I had to deal with that abuse and eventually ended up with chronic depression and bad insomnia. I had to ride with the person who abused me everyday to school because I had no other choice and no one believed me. Then when I was in school I wrote a suicide note that my friend told the teacher and so on…
Anyways I still have to live with the sister who abused me verbally and physically. And of course I do not want to be around her, I had a therapist and a physiologist who diagnosed me with my illness, and I need to talk to them about having autism. I do not want to be around her because I do not feel comfortable and now she has her boyfriend here who has no job and my mom thinks that is ok. Also my mom of course does not care as I told her and even wrote her a ESSAY about the trauma and abuse I went through and she still does not care. My family has a history of abuse and this disgust me.
Anyways I had been trying to move for a month now, and the problem is I have no car because I got into a accident. And there are no buses where I live, and I had some tours but wasn’t able to go. what do i do! please help if you canFebruary 18, 2018 at 6:54 am #193125ElianaParticipant
I’m so sorry all this is happening. I’m not sure how old you are. But do you have a case manager? They can help you find resources, other than a homeless shelter. I know when I filed for SSDI, I put in an application for subsidized housing. There was a long waiting list however. I’m the meantime, I went to a church, frightened and scared, and a social worker who volunteered for a good pantry there let me stay in a small efficiency in the back of the church until the housing called me from their waiting list. I had no income, since they are subsidized, I was able to live there rent free, and now I pay 30 percent of my Disability all utilities included.
Don’t give up. Contact churches, the Salvation Army, United way hotline, mental health agencies and tell them your situation. And pray, pray, pray, that is what I did. And it worked. Don’t give up. Even a domestic violence shelter can help, and it’s nicer than a homeless shelter. xFebruary 18, 2018 at 6:55 am #193127ElianaParticipant
Typo above “good pantry” should read “food pantry”February 18, 2018 at 10:09 am #193181anitaParticipant
I think that a safe homeless shelter, one for young people (I figure you are very young) is a good idea, I am thinking, having read this and previous threads. You need to be safe from abuse, whatever it takes.
anitaFebruary 18, 2018 at 11:02 am #193203SelenaParticipant
Thank you for the comments. I have actually contacted the landlord and told him the situation, but I do not know what is going to happen.February 19, 2018 at 6:52 am #193287anitaParticipant
You are welcome, Selena. I hope you do take good care of yourself best you can, and part of it is getting the help that you do need.
anitaFebruary 25, 2018 at 6:35 pm #194687BenzRabbitParticipant
Usually, siblings and families DO NOT change!
YOU have to change….yourself and your environment!!
If you are in a western country (USA/Canada/Europe) there are multiple state/county and government resources available to you. If not, contact a church/temple/any religious center or social service organization.
Prayers and hugs sent your way.