Dear James:

First thing this morning, I want to meditate a bit on something you wrote on Sept 1, in your thread “When Consciousness Wears the Face of a Lover”:

“Love is the highest and purest service we can offer to humanity. It’s not about recognition, reward, or doing things for show—it’s about giving, understanding, and being fully present for others. When we act from love, every small gesture, every word, every act of kindness becomes meaningful. Helping others with love is not just about changing their lives, it transforms us as well.

“Love sees beyond faults, beyond appearances, beyond judgment. It connects us to the essence of people, to their struggles, their joys, their humanity. When we serve from love, we serve without expectation, without ego, without thinking “I am doing something great.” The act itself becomes the gift, and the impact spreads silently, like a ripple in water.”-

Beautifully said. “Being fully present for others”- how do you do it, in practical ways?

I am not good at being fully present for others , and I want to get better or more skillful at it. I just looked it up (AI). It says that among other things, it means “Holding space without rushing to fix, explain, or bypass”, which means…

“Holding space: Creating a safe, nonjudgmental container for someone to feel, speak, or process — without interruption or agenda.

“Without rushing to fix: Not jumping in with solutions, advice, or action. Trusting that the person’s feelings are valid, even if unresolved.

“Without rushing to explain: Not intellectualizing or rationalizing their pain. Avoiding phrases like ‘It’s probably just stress’ or ‘This happens to everyone.’

“Without bypassing: Not skipping over the hard feelings with positivity or spiritual platitudes. No ‘Everything happens for a reason’ or ‘Just stay grateful.’

“Emotionally attuned example: ‘I hear you. That sounds really heavy. I’m here with you.’ (Instead of: ‘You should try yoga’ or ‘Maybe it’s not that bad.’)

“Why it matters: When someone is in pain, they don’t always need a fix — they need to feel seen, held, and honored. Holding space is a form of emotional sovereignty: it trusts the other person’s process without hijacking it.” (AI).

James, on Aug 30, you wrote something in your thread “Not me”, that stayed with me ever since, something I repeat to myself every day. You wrote:

“Radical Acceptance is not just about accepting situations outside of you, it’s about accepting what is happening inside you/ your thoughts, emotions, fears, and impulses without resistance. It’s a full acknowledgment that life, including all feelings, is unfolding exactly as it is.

“When I say, ‘When fear comes, you don’t resist it; you let it be seen,’ what I mean is: notice the fear fully, without trying to push it away, judge it, or fix it. In practice, this looks like allowing yourself to feel the sensation of fear in the body, observing the racing thoughts, the tension, the urge to control without identifying with it. You don’t become ‘ the fear”; you simply let it appear and pass through. Pure Consciousness itself watches, and the fear begins to lose its power because there is no resistance feeding it.

“Similarly, ‘When anger arises, you don’t judge it; you allow it to pass like a cloud’ means that you stay with the moment, letting the emotion move through your body and mind without clinging. The inner dialogue is simple: ‘This is here, it is happening, and it is passing.’ There is no need to argue with it, suppress it, or attach meaning to it. Pure Consciousness supports the release because you see clearly that the anger is temporary, not you, and has no ground once you let it be.

“… When you allow yourself to fully face that fear, without trying to flee, control, or resist, it transforms… In essence, radical acceptance is… allowing every feeling, thought, or uncertainty to rise and fall without clinging. In doing so, the ego loses its grip, and the mind and body act naturally, smoothly, and intelligently.”-

So, the Ego is the part of a human that resists reality (the what-is), suppresses it, tries to ignore it, or magnify it, or make it.. go away.. or desperately, unintelligently try to change it?

In the original post in this thread (Sept 25), you wrote: “Spirituality is the complete death of the self, therefore your experiences, beliefs, ideas, and everything you ‘think’ you are”-

Is it also the complete death of your beautiful thoughts about Love and Radical Acceptance..?

* Peter, and everyone who may be reading this post, your thoughts on the above are welcome 🙂

🤍🌿 Anita