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    Lilly82
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    Hello everyone, I’m new to this board and need some advice.

    I have been dating the most amazing man for the last couple of months, and everything is going so well.  He’s kind, genuine, has a good sense of humour, very handsome.

    I have never been happier.  However, I struggle a lot with my self worth, self esteem, and confidence.   I feel like he’s a lot more attractive than I am, and he could have anyone he wanted.  He constantly tells me how beautiful he thinks I am, caring, genuine etc.

    I’ve looked up his ex gfs on facebook and compare myself to them, because they’re both very pretty.

    I constantly think hes going to break up with me and leave me.  I dont want to feel like this anymore.  I want to believe that he really wants to be with me and won’t leave me.

    I know confidence is sexy and also important in a relationship, so I’m trying so hard to work on myself and get better at that so I don’t lose him.

    Any tips on overcoming this?? 🙁

    #164920
    Anonymous
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    Dear Lilly82:

    The two pretty ex girlfriends are in his past, ex girlfriends, correct? They are in his past even though they are pretty. Maybe he is looking for a woman who is “caring, genuine etc.,” and maybe he does think that being caring, genuine, etc., is beautiful.

    Your fear that he leaves you, confront this fear best you can, look at it gently. Where did it originate (… those formative years of childhood?)

    This fear can be managed, even healed from. Hope you post again, maybe telling a bit about the origin I mentioned.

    anita

    #165084
    Macy
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    Lilly82

    Attractiveness doesn’t always mean pretty/good looking. What most men find to be attractive, is a woman who is confident in who she is…not based on looks but rather the inner beauty, that resonates outward. Confidence is attractive. Also remember pictures can be airbrushed (which a lot are on fb)..a beautiful personality can’t be.

    Don’t ever second guess yourself…your bf is just as lucky to have you, as my much as you appreciate him.

    Macy

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