I’m feeling crazy and just need any outside view.

My boyfriend has a habit of stonewalling.  When I call him out on it, he tells me he gives up, nothing can make me happy – etc

Recently he lied to me about something he saw on my social media that he didn’t like.  The problem being, he told me he had his roommate look me up, and that’s when he saw this. The post was private, and I cannot receive friend requests from anyone that doesn’t have mutual friends.

This suggests he looked over my page, found friends, added them, then added me to spy…

He called me to scream at me and say he felt betrayed and heartbroken, but as soon as I mentioned everything other than a few pictures are private, he hung up on me and hasn’t said a word to me since.  This is a common theme – he’s mad, he goes silent, and I’m stonewalled until he wants to speak.

Adding to this… he’s secretive.  Our conversations feel very superficial.  I can’t tell you much about his son, his family… or his friends.  I asked his sons name, and he told me he’s given it to me 3 times but I don’t listen.  I know he never said his name, I always pay attention to details on other people’s children.

Then there are our dates. I have no say.  He tells me the day and time and I am To accommodate. I planned one date and he told me I need to be in control and I need to feel like I’m the King.  It was one date.

I find myself asking is he narcissistic, or am I the problem and perhaps I need to do some soul searching and self reflection.

so as I prepare to text I can’t do this anymore and block… I have to ask.  Is it me? Am I crazy?

or is this in some way shape or form unhealthy behavior?