Thank you so much for checking in. I’m pretty miserable due to stress (try as I might I I can’t get it under control) and a fairly new addition – perimenopause. I’ve been in perimenopause for about 3 years but a couple of months ago I started to get terrible lower back aches, full body aches and more headaches. My mood is all over the place and some days I just cry of & on all day. I’ve done a bunch or research and are trying a number things to feel better, but i’m not noticing a change and the pain is really inferring with my already pretty low quality of life. Which leads to more stress, which makes the pain worse. I was supposed to go to a family party yesterday but hurt so bad, felt reeally angry and couldn’t stop crying, so I didn’t go. Then I felt really guilty. I don’t feel like I have a support system to lean on because my husband and parents are sick of hearing me complain and don’t know how to help me. My biggest support is my 12 year old son, but I don’t want to burden him, or my friends. I have a good day here and there, but certainly not enough. I’m suffered my whole life in one way or another and it’s only getting worse. Sorry for the long post, thank you for the opportunity to get these feelings out.
You are very welcome. You called your perimenopause experience “a fairly new addition“.
“Then I felt really guilty. I don’t feel like I have a support system to lean on because my husband and parents are sick of hearing me complain”-
– how about another fairly new addition to your life: support and empathy for yourself. No more feeling guilty for being in pain, or for feeling miserable, or for feeling anything at all that you are feeling.
I am sorry, Kodi, that you have suffered for so long. I wish you didn’t suffer at all, but since you do suffer- as we all do, to one extent or another, at any one time- minimize your suffering by peeling off unnecessary pain (guilt, shame, overthinking, etc.) from pain that you have to deal with (ex. perimenopause)?
I will soon be away from the computer, but would like to read more from you anytime you feel like posting. Here you can share all that you feel and it will not be too much for me to read.
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