March 7, 2020 at 12:57 pm #342036
Anita, the topic was reported for inappropriate content on my side so I am unable to continue on that thread. However, I can answer your questions here. I am unfamiliar with this website so I do not know if there was another way of replying to the topic. Anyway, these are your questions and my answers.
Do you experience pain and pleasure when people insult you? Technically I don’t experience pleasure when people insult me. I experience pain, which I happen to like the more I feel it. It is changing me negatively; I laugh when I see someone die in movies (especially gory deaths) while everyone else is horrified or sad. But I still don’t care. You may consider me a maniac for thinking so but still…
Do you experience pain and pleasure when people use you? No, I experience pleasure cause I know I am helping others and being generous even though I am being used.
What was the pain you were already feeling? This is the pain that I was talking about in the entire topic; the pain caused from being alone, being insulted by family and etc.March 7, 2020 at 7:07 pm #342144
You experience pain only when people insult you; you experience pleasure when you help others, knowing that they are using you.
Question: when you laugh watching gory deaths in horror movies, do you laugh because you feel pleasure watching those movies, or do you laugh for a different reason?
One more question: what is it that you need here, from me?
(I will be back to the computer in about 12 hours from now).
anitaMarch 8, 2020 at 6:09 am #342218
I laugh at gory deaths cause I think it’s funny how the person dies (For example: In the movie Final Destination 2, I laughed when I saw a girl being shot to death through the head with a nail gun by accident). You see, with this attitude I’m never going to make friends so I need help figuring out another way I could keep this personality hidden or change it so others are not creeped out and I need help to make friends. Like I said, my cooperation skills have flopped and I’m always alone when the class is doing pair or group work. I end up doing everything myself since no one wants to work with me. And everyday, I am finding it harder to understand emotions but I can understand numbers better than emotions!March 8, 2020 at 6:24 am #342222
Your answer to my question regarding what help you are looking for here is: to find a way to keep your personality hidden or change it so that you can make friends. The personality you want to hide or change is the one that enjoys gory death scenes in horror movies.
My suggestion is that you stop watching horror movies.
Another suggestion is that you reconsider my previous suggestion to you and seek counseling in your school and community, that you contact any mental health resource available to you, as soon as possible.
Aim at being a good person. Focus on behaving like a good person. A good person is not a person who participates in activities that harm others or yourself. Don’t harm others; don’t harm yourself.
Keep in mind the Buddhist principle: Do No Harm.
Whatever you feel- you can’t change, but what you do- you can change. You enjoy those gory movies- that what you feel. What you can change is what you do and what you don’t do. So don’t go to those movies, don’t rent them, don’t play them, and seek mental health counseling.
March 9, 2020 at 1:35 pm #342498
- This reply was modified 4 months ago by anita.
Ok, Anita. Thank you for the advice. I can try to change my ways but I do not think watching horror movies affect my personality that much since I barely watch any. And I always watch the movies alone in the night so no one really knows how I react at the gory scenes. And I tried seeking counseling but I could not find the solution that I wanted. That is why I tried to find the solution online. But Thank you.March 9, 2020 at 1:51 pm #342512
You are welcome, paradoxMusic. I wish I could help you, But I can’t think of anything other than what I already shared with you.