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  • August 5, 2014 at 7:42 am #62687
    Alpal
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    Hello Matt
    So true matt! Your words really made me think , you are right I should not connect what she is doing to myself it could be something about her or about something that I may not understand.And also you are right the mystery is what bothers me the most the fact that I dont understand it ! I will try to direct my attention on forgiving myself no matter what happened and forgiving her and hoping the best for the both of us even if it doesn’t work out between us .
    Thank you

    August 5, 2014 at 7:42 am #62688
    Alpal
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    Hey Jasmine
    Haha , Thank you thats really sweet:)

    August 5, 2014 at 10:00 am #62693
    Will
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    “When a friend changes on you and you dont understand why , should you let go or try to get the friendship back even though you have tried countless times”

    And when you put it like that, it seems you’ve answered your own question. It’s sad to lose friends, but as you grow older and circumstances change, this is what happens. Just work on letting it go, seems that’s all that’s left to do there.

    My sympathies and best wishes. And congratulations on finding a man to love. 🙂

    August 5, 2014 at 11:02 am #62702
    Heather
    Participant

    Thanks for your insight here. I too am going through a similar situation with a friend. The letting go part is very hard, but I am trying to do it as best I can. I tried to continue the friendship with everything I had in me and nothing happened, in fact from my perspective it made things worse. Maybe because I know I was trying so hard and was not getting anything back. I became exhausted from it and could not continue. I realize now that I am doing the best thing for myself, if she decides she misses me and wants me in her life we will see where I am at that time, if not, I am better off. I want happiness in my life and this friendship was bringing a lot of negativity.

    August 5, 2014 at 12:27 pm #62709
    Alpal
    Participant

    Hello will !
    Yeah I guess I did, I’ll start to try to let it go 🙂

    August 5, 2014 at 12:34 pm #62710
    Alpal
    Participant

    Hello Heather
    Sorry you had to go through it too , it is kind of tough to let people you thought you were close to go but sometimes you just have to put yourself first dont you? Yeah letting go definitely is the hardest thing to do I personally dont know where to start with it I guess take it slow. And I totally agree with the “if she decides she misses me and wants me in her life we will see where I am at that time if not I am better off” which is exactly how I am starting to feel about this entire situation ! Hope everything works out for you dear !
    Thanks

    August 5, 2014 at 1:02 pm #62711
    Heather
    Participant

    Thanks Alpal! I have started with just doing my best to not reach out to her, which is a lot harder than one thinks. When I have something that happens that I want to reach out to her for, I reach out to someone else, or I journal. Journaling has been an amazing thing for me, not sure why I didn’t start ions ago…LOL!! I also still have her as a friend on Facebook and stuff like that, so I can still kind of see what she is up to, overtime that may change, who knows. I still care about her a lot and which her well in her life. She is just not a good fit in my life right now and I have realized that she has her own things she has to deal with and there is no way I can help her with that, she needs to find her own way. Good luck to you too!!

    • This reply was modified 10 years, 3 months ago by Heather.
    August 5, 2014 at 6:16 pm #62721
    @Jasmine-3
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    Thanks everyone.

    Hi Alpal @aliaalbastaki, please pardon my ignorance. So what is the verdict ? What is it that is bothering you at core level ? You appear to have agreed with everyone’s comments on this thread. I am left confused as to how you are going to move forward ? He he. Care to explain please. You can be honest here as no one is going to judge you. Everyone is anonymous here 🙂

    “Recently I have gotten married to the love of my life and it just seems as if a lot of the people I know have changed on me, could this really mean that they are all just jealous” – I am focussing on the A LOT OF THE PEOPLE here and not just one friend.

    Jasmine

    August 6, 2014 at 12:34 am #62738
    Alpal
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    Hey there Jasmine 🙂
    At my core level I honestly don’t understand why it bothers me that we are not friends although I know that we shouldn’t really be friends anymore and I know we have grown apart. Yeah I do agree with most of them because I was looking for opinions and I am the type of person who will listen in to everyone’s insight and really think about it deeply, plus mostly everyone is saying to just let her go which I guess is probably the best thing to do. As for how I am going to move forward I am not so sure where I should start with letting her go and if I should really erase her number and erase her completely out of my life or just stop trying to regain the friendship and we can just stay as acquaintances. As for the “a lot of people” for some reason I must have had a “brain fart” because when you said there was contradictions I felt I might not have explained myself well enough and when I went back and read my first post I realized that I said a lot of people and I just specifically meant one friend, at first I think I was going to write about more than one but as I was writing I started thinking of it and the other people I knew didn’t really change that much and have been the greatest people but I might have been a little bit extra sensitive as I have been blessed with a lot of sensitivity :), and I guess I forgot to go back and edit that part out once I realized it was all really just about one person . Sorry for the brain fart 🙂
    Alpal

    August 6, 2014 at 12:36 am #62739
    Alpal
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    Hey heather !
    Yeah really agree with letting her go and deciding that she has her own life and she needs to grow herself and you both need to do your own thing! That’s exactly what I am going to try to do , slowly let her go not sure if Im going to let her go completely or just let the friendship go, either way I’m not going to stick around for it anymore

    August 6, 2014 at 12:45 am #62741
    @Jasmine-3
    Participant

    Ha Ha love the brain fart. I have to use this term as well 🙂 Just awesome

    Bless your soul.

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