Hi Irene,
My heart goes out to you during this difficult time. But it’s also a great positive move for you – it shows that you value yourself, that you have decided not to let someone else walk over you or disrespect who you are.

A couple of suggestions:
1. Whenever you let go of something that took up so much space in your life before, the first thing that you’ll notice is a big void. If you don’t honor that space and treat it as sacred, it will get filled in very quickly! So be very watchful of what / who you allow into that void.

2. Even though you’ve moved out, there will be a period of time, as you transition into creating a new life for yourself, that you might get pulled back into your old life. For example, your might feel guilty about some aspects of it, or angry about some other parts of it. If you want to head over into a new area of your life, I’d say don’t pour any more energy into the life you let go. Just Let It Go Completely!

3. Start pouring more energy into the kind of life you want to build for yourself – a life where you’ll honor yourself first, where you’ll give voice to your purpose, where you’ll start creating more peace and positive energy around you. Yes, that day will come – and very quickly too, if you’re open to it, and follow your instincts, as you’re doing right now!

Good Luck with your journey!!

Good for you Irene! You are brave to be able to overcome your deepest fears and anxieties. These broken places are where the light gets in and we become the strongest (~Hemingway). So don’t feel guilty – just be kind to yourself. Take care of yourself. A year from now, you’ll see that you’re much nearer the person you’re meant to become. Good Luck!!

Dear Irene74:

Since the time you ended the relationship did you have any moment at all when you felt relief? Is it that you did not feel any relief at all, or is it that your relief is temporary and you often feel stressed, regretful and just plain strange about the extreme changes in your life?

The discomfort about such extreme CHANGES is acceptable and there is nothing you can do about it. Don’t panic or.. stop panicking about the discomfort, endure it and ride it out. Over time “the dust will settle” following this windstorm or tornado in your life.

It is a neurological thing, literally, distressed neurons dealing with this change. You need to engage in calming activities, so to let the required time pass without catastrophizing, let it pass by let’s say watching lots of movies or listening to music or walking, or yoga, meditating or all of these. This is not the time to choose- your thinking is not clear, your view is covered with the dust that needs your calm so it can settle.

Calm + Time and no major life decisions to make-

And sooner than later, you will be in a position to move forward.

anita