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May 26, 2022 at 7:44 am #401205Irene74Participant
Hello Anita,
Wow, how has it been so long since I last came on here!? Thank you for your message. How are you doing? I’m not bad thank you, the friend thing has taken a back seat at the moment though it still bothers me a bit. I’ve lost touch with another too now, I hope I still have some friends left! Work stress has taken over everything for a while, we have someone who is very bad for the team with his behaviour but no one to tell it seems. I hope you’re ok and doing well.
Take care
Irene74
April 19, 2021 at 7:21 am #378045Irene74ParticipantJust came back on for the first time in a while and she still bothers me, I wish I could put it behind me! I hope everyone is ok xx
October 19, 2020 at 6:54 am #367944Irene74ParticipantHello Anita,
I hope you’re ok! Yes a pandemic free world would be lovely, hopefully soon we’ll turn a corner 🙂
I think you’re right, I thought that she was a good friend but I think I was wrong and I am just one of many to her perhaps. It does still upset me to think about it but maybe the reclassifying is a very good idea.
Take care
Irene 74
October 12, 2020 at 2:15 am #367784Irene74ParticipantHello Anita,
I hope you had a good weekend 🙂 well it’s the management that’s causing us most of the stress, as if things aren’t bad enough! Our City has the highest infection rate in the UK so everyone’s worried anyway!
I’m still with my partner, it’s just over 5 years now 🙂 we’re happy, the only issue is that we work together and sometimes because we’re both stressed with work it can make things difficult but we know what’s important in the long run.
About the friend I spoke about, I did hear from her back in April I think, she was asking me about our mutual friend again. The short story is that she had a dental appointment and our mutual friend now works at her dentists! She said she didn’t know she worked there and felt awkward about seeing her, I didn’t really know what she expected from me but again had no interest in me, was just venting I think.
Recently, I was with my Mum and our friend in the town and we decided to get a drink at a bar. Whilst we we’re being shown to a table I noticed she was sat at a table talking to a girl, I looked at here but she ignored me, I’m pretty sure she did see me! I don’t know why I’m bothered really.
Take care
Irene74
October 9, 2020 at 3:50 am #367715Irene74ParticipantHello Anita,
I’m glad you’re feeling alright 🙂 This time of year has been stressful for us all for a few years as we work in support for a university for teaching. There’s always a rush to get things done for the new term and it always seems last minute. This year is worse as our management aren’t considering that we may be struggling too (what with the pandemic!) and our mental health doesn’t matter, just as long as we’re at work then that’s it!
Take care
Irene74
October 7, 2020 at 2:14 am #367625Irene74ParticipantHello Anita! I’m ok thank you, work is very stressful though. Maybe that’s why I came on here again! How are you? Hope you’re well. It’s a totally different world now, I hope we can get back to some normality soon.
Take care
Irene xx
October 5, 2020 at 6:44 am #367564Irene74ParticipantThank you Anita (I can’t believe I didn’t reply to you, I’m very sorry!) I haven’t been on here in such a long time!
Take care and I hope you’re all well xx
September 7, 2019 at 4:39 am #310717Irene74ParticipantHello Anita,
Thanks for your reply! I just find some peoples behaviour strange and confusing I guess and this friend is just one example and I’ve been wondering for a while now what I’ve done wrong, when I think maybe I should just forget her! Perhaps I should have given it a different title!
Work is another thing altogether, maybe I should write about that in the work forum 🙂
Thank you
Irene74
September 5, 2019 at 6:12 am #310391Irene74ParticipantThanks Mark, yes exactly I wouldn’t refer to my friends as that so I’m not sure why she would! Negativity and a lack of integrity like you say! It’s weird because I actually remember her asking me on a night out when she was confiding in me if she was a nice person, I said yes but I really don’t know!
September 5, 2019 at 6:09 am #310389Irene74ParticipantThank you Aiyana, that’s true, I just need to move on! I know I’ll feel better in time.
You guys are all great giving me advice, thanks very much 🙂
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September 5, 2019 at 6:08 am #310387Irene74ParticipantThank you Inky, I know you’re right, she’s not really a real friend and yes I’ve considered she may be on team ex boyfriend too! She used to say things about how funny he is and what’s wrong with him! That’s a good idea about turning things around to her 😀 I really need to forget about her and like you say she probably won’t make much if any effort!
September 5, 2019 at 6:03 am #310383Irene74ParticipantThank you Anita, you’re right, our mutual friend probably is unhappy and I know her reasons for this so I try and support her and help her as much as I can I just wish she hadn’t said the “you’ve changed” thing, it wasn’t in a positive way either! I still like to go out for a drink but I also like (and always have liked) so many other things, like the cinema and sightseeing, all sorts of things really! She doesn’t really have any other interests, I’ve tried to get her interested in things but I can’t force it!
It was hard to let go of the previous relationship, more probably because that’s all I’d known for a long time, I really had had enough of him though but that’s all good now 🙂
I think I’m just feeling worried about this because I’m feeling stressed about work at the moment and this is just adding to it
September 3, 2019 at 7:00 am #310109Irene74ParticipantThank you Anita, I think you’re right too…..I think maybe I need to go and do some activities where I can meet like minded people, I just feel sad about it as we’ve been friends for a long time, well I thought so! Also our mutual friend said that after I split up with my ex I changed, all that changed according to everyone else with me was I was much happier and perhaps didn’t drink as much! This hurt me and whilst we’re still friends and meet up I feel it hasn’t been the same since she said that, I’m doing well really aren’t I :-O
Take care x
August 3, 2015 at 8:25 am #81116Irene74ParticipantThank you so much Salisha, I haven’t been on here for so long and had no idea I had a message! Sorry for not replying before 🙂
March 31, 2015 at 3:04 pm #74729Irene74ParticipantHi Salisha,
Thank you for replying to me, your advice is much appreciated and very helpful 🙂
I know what you’re saying is true it’s just at the moment I have trouble believing in myself and still feel bad for ending the relationship.
I know that it was the best thing to do and it’s what I wanted but I expected some relief. I know in time that will change, it’s still early days and we were together a long time!
I know I have a lot to look forward to and I should stop feeling bad, it took me a long time to build up the courage to speak to him! I need to stop getting upset too.
Friends couldn’t believe I’d finally done it. One even said I never would and I would put up with it forever, which wasn’t very good to hear. Sometimes people don’t understand I guess.
Thank you again 🙂
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