October 5, 2020 at 9:03 am #367572
You are welcome, and yes, you haven’t been here for a long time. Last you posted was Sept 7, 2019- that was before the global and still ongoing pandemic. Imagine, last we communicated, neither one of us were afraid of being surrounded by people, being in a crowd.. last we communicated was a world away, now gone. How are you???
anitaOctober 7, 2020 at 2:14 am #367625
Hello Anita! I’m ok thank you, work is very stressful though. Maybe that’s why I came on here again! How are you? Hope you’re well. It’s a totally different world now, I hope we can get back to some normality soon.
Irene xxOctober 7, 2020 at 11:45 am #367650
You are welcome and thank you for asking about me. For as long as I keep my mind on what I want from life- to learn, to communicate- I am fine.
It is interesting, you wrote today: “work is very stressful”. Sept 5 last year, a year and a month ago, you wrote: “I’m feeling stressed about work at the moment”. I wonder if you’ve been very stressed because of work ever since last year.
anitaOctober 9, 2020 at 3:50 am #367715
I’m glad you’re feeling alright 🙂 This time of year has been stressful for us all for a few years as we work in support for a university for teaching. There’s always a rush to get things done for the new term and it always seems last minute. This year is worse as our management aren’t considering that we may be struggling too (what with the pandemic!) and our mental health doesn’t matter, just as long as we’re at work then that’s it!
Irene74October 9, 2020 at 8:09 am #367718
Interesting, long time ago I graduated a 4-year program in a college/ university for teaching biology. Too bad management is not managing things better so that employees don’t have to rush and stress. If you want to update: are you still with your partner (five years now)? And your friend/ not friend of 15 years?
anitaOctober 12, 2020 at 2:15 am #367784
I hope you had a good weekend 🙂 well it’s the management that’s causing us most of the stress, as if things aren’t bad enough! Our City has the highest infection rate in the UK so everyone’s worried anyway!
I’m still with my partner, it’s just over 5 years now 🙂 we’re happy, the only issue is that we work together and sometimes because we’re both stressed with work it can make things difficult but we know what’s important in the long run.
About the friend I spoke about, I did hear from her back in April I think, she was asking me about our mutual friend again. The short story is that she had a dental appointment and our mutual friend now works at her dentists! She said she didn’t know she worked there and felt awkward about seeing her, I didn’t really know what she expected from me but again had no interest in me, was just venting I think.
Recently, I was with my Mum and our friend in the town and we decided to get a drink at a bar. Whilst we we’re being shown to a table I noticed she was sat at a table talking to a girl, I looked at here but she ignored me, I’m pretty sure she did see me! I don’t know why I’m bothered really.
Irene74October 12, 2020 at 9:24 am #367787
I am glad you and your partner are doing well. It is understandable that there is stress at the workplace because of the current winter-wave (a spike in cases everywhere in the northern hemisphere, from North America to Europe to Russia). It is very troubling to me as well, and I am so looking forward to a pandemic free world!
The woman you still refer to as a friend, reads more like an acquaintance. The title of your thread is “Confusing People”- maybe reclassifying her as an acquaintance will make things clearer.
October 19, 2020 at 6:54 am #367944
- This reply was modified 1 week, 2 days ago by anita.
I hope you’re ok! Yes a pandemic free world would be lovely, hopefully soon we’ll turn a corner 🙂
I think you’re right, I thought that she was a good friend but I think I was wrong and I am just one of many to her perhaps. It does still upset me to think about it but maybe the reclassifying is a very good idea.
Irene 74October 19, 2020 at 11:46 am #367954
Dear Irene 74:
I am fine, thank you. I would love to arrive, with you and with the rest of humanity, to a “pandemic free world”, and soon.
I hope that reclassifying her as an acquaintance will lessen the confusion and pain you experienced in regard to her. Take good care of yourself.