So this is my story… I am a 32 year old man who has been living abroad for 8 years. I moved overseas because my ex-boyfriend was studying outside our home country. I got a scholarship and graduated from a prestigious university. We broke up after about 4.5 years of relationship and never came back. Since then, we haven’t managed to move on and feelings have failed us for another 3.5 years. Now he is seeing someone else, but he still loves me. He told me about the new guy early on in the relationship, but I didn’t have the right to ask him to break up with him since we weren’t a couple. They are not together either, it’s more of a casual thing. My mother is sick with cancer and I will go back to my country to take care of her. Even though it’s not goodbye forever, it feels like shit. I feel like crying every day and I’m afraid that if I leave him, he will start something serious with the another guy and forget about me. I asked him to start over in a new place and make a plan for the future (you know, the house, the dog and the kid) but he wouldn’t compromise for a long distance relationship. He just said that he has hope that one day we can be together again, but not now. Please help me, it hurts me so much to leave him and not be able to hug him again. Just the thought of the last day at the airport before I leave makes me sick 🙁