Dear Lizzie888:

I ask questions because I want to understand better. You wrote that you didn’t tell him that you loved him. Did he tell you that he loved you, and if he did, how did you react to him saying that?

You wanted to go to an amusement park with him, you wrote. When you were dating, where did you go, what did you do?

anita

Dear Lizzie888:

This has been your first relationship with a man. It consisted of a month and a half of the two of you spending time in the school yard, walking and hanging out with friends. The other month and a half has been online, not in-person. This is a very limited relationship, limited in time and activity. There was not much time for you to express your feelings, not much time to form feelings or be clear about what they were. There was not enough alone time to express them because most of the time there were other people present with the two of you.

A second relationship is where I hope you have time to form feelings, to become aware of them, to share them, enough time to go out on dates, to spend a lot of alone time, just the two of you, to get to know each other outside just one context (school dorm life), and so forth.

I hope to read from you again, anytime you’d like to post about your thoughts, feelings and life experiences.

anita