Dear Rachael,

The thing about relationships is that both parties should be supportive and positive aspect to the other person’s life. They should encourage them to reach their full potential without holding them down. Long distance is hard.. I know that for a fact. I’ve been in a LDR for a little over a year, and I know how much of a struggle it is. But you also have to take into account that this is your life. If a guy truly loves you and wants to be with you, he’ll do everything in his power to make it work. He’ll visit you in Korea. He’ll make time for skype and phone calls. He’ll be there for you and be your biggest supporter to allow you to soar through life. If he does not do that, then why would you want to change your entire life for a relationship that is not guaranteed?

No relationship is finalized, even marriages. Nothing is for certain will last forever.. It’s certainly sad to think about it that way. But if your boyfriend truly wanted the best for you, then he would be supportive of your decision to go and teach in Korea. Heck, he may even think it’s the best thing for you to do and be proud that you’re taking initiative with your life.

Do what YOU want to do. Don’t make decisions based on a loved one. Yes, things may turn out wonderfully if you do find yourself in Europe with him. But what if they don’t? You don’t want to hold that resentment towards him and blame him that the reason you’re unhappy is because of him. It could go two ways: it working and it not. It’s just best to do what you WANT to do because at the end of the day, your happiness and life is what matters, not other people’s.

Judy