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  • April 18, 2024 at 7:15 am #431835
    anita
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    Dear gresshoppe:

    I am sending good vibes your way and thank you for the good vibes! We can talk about autophobia sometime, if you would like that. I experienced it since I was a child and only recently found out the term.

    I hope to read how the conversation with him goes.

    anita

    April 24, 2024 at 5:36 pm #432018
    anita
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    How are you, gresshoppe?

    anita

    April 28, 2024 at 4:24 am #432108
    gresshoppe
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    Thanks for checking in. I told him that I needed to take a lot of time to be on my own. He insisted that we meet, and said that there is no pressure on his part, no expectations. Afterwards, I asked myself why I allow myself to get talked into something that doesn’t feel right…but I am also reminded that I am in charge of my life and have to be clear about boundaries.

    April 28, 2024 at 7:04 am #432110
    anita
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    Dear gresshoppe:

    You are welcome.

    “He insisted… I allow myself to get talked into something that doesn’t feel right“- if you explained to him that when pressured (as in someone insisting), you have a tendency to be talked into doing what doesn’t feel right for you, and you point out to him what exactly he said that placed pressure on you.. and then, he does it again and again, then it’d tell you that he cares more about getting his way than about your emotional well-being.

    “He insisted… said there is no pressure“- to insist (online definition) is to demand something forcefully, not accepting refusal, and that is pressure. So, he pressured you and then denied that he did…?

    anita

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