Please anyone tell e why I keep hurting myself over and over again in the same relationship, Im scared to be alone, don’t think I will find anyone else to love me or be with me..my main focus is the issues of this relationship, my bf plays hot and cold on me, we break up and make up, so many times, 5 yrs ongoing, we are both in our forties. our families have had enough and im kind of depressed about all this… this week I have been very poorly with the flu, had respiratory problems, I called him at work to say im at the doctors, he just couldn’t care less, he hasn’t called or text to c if im better…. some days he will text and call me every hour, some days its nothing, I have to do all the calling and texting and he would not even reply. saying hes busy.
We had a nice xmas and new year together, he bought me presents, took me out for meals and he was planning for us to go away next weekend, 3days ago things went doomed again, if I try talking to him about it he says im dramatic and im looking for arguments. so I keep silent, our families have had enough of this drama, my adult son will not tlak to him, so he is not welcome at my house, we use to live together tho, for 4yrs until a big argument and he went to live with his mum September last year.

It is a very sad situation for me, I don’t know what to do, my son and friends keeps telling me this guy is a loser and im wasting my time and this guy is just playing mind games with me. I just don’t know how to handle this… the real problem is some weeks he is so nice and kind, will try his best and other times he just retreats and make as if im just a casual friend.