In your original post you wrote: “Our living together was also causing tension in his divorce because his kids would talk about me to his ex and it would infuriate her”-
– likely she told his parents and maybe other people as well, and not in an approving way, to put it mildly, but in a very disapproving, angry way. So you have his parents (and his children) with a bad taste in their mouths as they think of you. See?
I don’t think there is anything at all that you can do, not for as long as he cares about what his parents think. Most adults care about that, and he seems to care.
I don’t understand why he doesn’t deliver your stuff to you ASAP, or have you pick those up as soon as possible. Do you understand this part?
His kids were only 3 and 6 and they actually loved me, he said they were constantly asking about me after I moved out. As for his parents, his ex did tell them. In my mind, truly if he really cared and if it was meant to be then there wouldn’t be any other issues or factors that would get in the way of that.
It hurt to hear him say those words but at least I can have closure now, I’m picking up my things today and have no more to say to him, so there will not be a conversation today.
You are welcome. I guess, like he told you, he had real feelings for you. And I am guessing, things got to be too difficult for him, maybe his parents’ disapproval, being the most difficult part. So he made his decision, to remove his relationship with you from his life, so to lessen conflict with his parents, simplify his life otherwise.
If it helps you, do post again, anytime and I will reply, if you would like it that I do.