March 28, 2014 at 11:41 am #53708marco poloParticipant
I like this forum so, I decided to writte a recent experience that was hard to overcome, I started a relatioship as a rebound from my ex ,I didn’t give the time ,because work , studies and family , so I never was really 100% involved at the beggining. I am not the romantic type ,is hard for me to get into the rose-pink phases of love sickness , but with the time this person show me how to be affectionated and how to talk with my heart ,so i became emotional machine .I didn’t like my partners behavoiur and lack of organization in almost all lifes aspects. I was wrtitting down all the things that I didn’ like ,just for example : trouble with the law, ex-pot head, disfuctional familiy, poor judment in important matters.I overlook all this in the name of my growing love ,that was becoming growing pain, and I decided to give a try and demostrated that love will help us , romantic foolish. My friends and familiy didn’t feel comfortable around this person and that make me uneasy. I broke up with my ex in the name of my sanity and beause my partner cross the line being a compulsive liar ,I felt so tired of being stupid and non-rational . My parnert beg for our reconciliation ,but my heart close up ,and I started to look into myself what is the problem with me ,I decided that I have to work in my selfsteeem and how to bring healthier people in my life.MY heart is torn because I feel gulity of my partner sufering ,but I need to love myself right now.March 28, 2014 at 1:18 pm #53714ChadParticipant
I understand you’re feeling guilty for his pain. However you have to do what it is you feel you need to do, breaking up with someone because its becoming unhealthy for you or because you need time alone to work on yourself is noble. I dont think anyone can fault you for it. For me, if you cant be in a relationship the way you need to be, the most humane thing is to end it. If suppose for your conscience, as long as you make good on your word and go and truly grow and work on what you need to. Atleast his pain and the break up will not have been in vain.March 28, 2014 at 9:43 pm #53733marco poloParticipant
Thank you very much for your reply, I feel more light ,because i don’t wanna feel like the villant here. i have some updates ,my partner call me out the blue today asking me to come over to his house and I said I can’t , so I told him that we can talk later and he call at night I told him that I was studying and I can talk tomorrow person to person, I am feeling weak right now I don’t know if I will be strong enought ,to stay firm in my decision that took me 6 months to concrete ,I don’t want to fell like a alcoholic making false promisses to quit and never fullfill the promise…lust, love,unclean, weak , this are my feelings right now.