August 26, 2016 at 12:22 am #113296
I’m really struggling financially and I’ve been looking for a job. I got an offer as a parking lot attendant. It’s a minimum wage work and it’s mostly composed of young college kids. I keep telling myself I really really need the job and it’s not good for me to think I’m above that kind of work. But I’m just too proud to take it. I’m afraid of my friends who sees me as someone who has my things together working there. It’s a pride thing and I know it’s really bad. I hate the thought of me who once had a reasonably comfortable life now struggling again.
Has anyone been through a similar situation? What did you do? What happened?
Thanks in advance.August 26, 2016 at 3:27 am #113299InkyParticipant
I’m supposed to tell you to take the job, that any work is good work. But I’m with you ~ I would take a job like that ~ but only if it’s over an hour and a half away so I wouldn’t run into people I knew. And then I’d wear sunglasses and a hat. And if anyone did see me I would say that I own the parking lot or am writing a book on minimal wage jobs and it’s research LOL. I totally get that feeling!
In this economy though, we are lucky to have parking lot jobs. A successful ad man I know had to sell vacuum cleaners. It’s a sign of the times. Hang in there and know you’re in good company.
InkyAugust 26, 2016 at 9:18 am #113315
I had jobs less than prestigious but I wasn’t ashamed to be seen doing the job. I felt less than others for various reasons but not for a paying job. I just don’t happen to have shame about the nature of a job that is not unethical. And I think parking cars properly is not unethical.
My input regarding your shame about friends seeing you parking cars: if your friends are not paying your bills, it is none of their business what (ethical) job you do to pay your bills.
If a friend makes a comment about you parking cars, tell that friend that he/ she is welcome to pay you the minimum wage you need so that you don’t have to take the job.
anitaAugust 26, 2016 at 7:58 pm #113378
I think I will take it. Not only because it will give me an income but because I’m terrified at doing it. But from my experience, being in terrifying positions often forces to adapt. So this might be an opportunity to grow for me. Opportunity to learn to value myself even when I’m at my lowest point. Thank you all.August 26, 2016 at 8:02 pm #113380
I like your attitude and resolution!
But Lester, doing this job is not, or shouldn’t be your “lowest point.” I don’t believe people’s worth are equal to their income or the prestige of a job, not at all. Be proud of parking those cars, do a good job at it. Be a professional at it.
anitaAugust 26, 2016 at 8:26 pm #113384
You are right Anita. People’s job or financial status shouldn’t be their worth. That’s a point of view that my brain logically knows but my ego currently is too inexperienced to realize. Thanks for reminding me. I will take the job and do it proudly. I will feel embarrassed when I run into one of my friends one of these days but I think I need that. When the embarrassment subsides I believe I’ll learn a lesson from it and be a wiser more peaceful person overall.
I want to stop resisting to the flow of life. This must be why this experience is presented to me.August 26, 2016 at 8:39 pm #113387
It is a social convention, a materialistic societal convention that a person’s worth= their money. But it is not reality. It is not true. Marketing is based on promoting this untruth: buy and buy so that you are worth more.
In reality, it is not so.
Hope you post again and share what you learn on the job, about the job, about friends and life!