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  • October 13, 2023 at 8:29 am #422981
    Chris
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    Hey everyone I am a mess I just found this and wanted to get an opinion so that I could feel better so my gf has borderline personality disorder we’ve been together for 9 months I am still in love with her and she just broke up with me. We had just reconnected because she broke up with me two months ago for about a mont because we used to fight a lot but now we understood more each other and both try to make this work so everything was amazing the best we ever were !!! One day she woke up telling me she is not in love with me anymore out of the blue …She said that she is leaving me due to her depression and because she cannot hurt me anymore while she is trying to survive or feel enough for me at the moment but she loves me and this is hard for her as well . We spend a last day together cuddling and watching series and then we cried and said goodbye . I’m going through hell because my first thoughts is that there is someone else or that this is an excuse but in the other hand I feel bad for her and wanted to help her I always have been and now I miss her and want to get back together and also I’m worried about her</p>

    October 14, 2023 at 9:16 pm #423112
    Helcat
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    Hi Chris

    You posted on the 13th and I’m finally seeing your post on the 15th. It looks like the forum has been really busy recently and your post was pushed to the 2nd page. I don’t think many people have seen your post for this reason.

    I’m so sorry to hear about your break up.

    I’m glad that things were going better since your previous break up. I know it’s painful and hard because you love her. Considering her diagnosis I would trust her reason for breaking up.

    How are you coping with the break up? Please take extra care of yourself during this difficult time.

    Please share whatever thoughts and feelings you wish to.

    Wishing you all the best! 🙏

    October 15, 2023 at 9:53 am #423125
    anita
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    Dear Chris:

    I hope that as you are reading this reply, you are feeling better than you did at the time you wrote your original post..? And I hope that she is okay.

    At the time, I read all your posts in your 11-page first thread (March 9-Aug 4, 2023) titled My depressed girlfriend left me. You started that thread with: “My girlfriend of about 9 months who I genuinely thought was the one, and told me she felt the same just left me a week ago” (March 9). Fast forward (Oct 13), she just broke up with you yet again, and you want to get back with her.. yet again. History repeats itself, doesn’t t?

    Since I read all your posts and communication on your first thread, maybe I can be of some help to you in no longer repeating this relationship history…?

    anita

    October 15, 2023 at 8:50 pm #423120
    M
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    Hi, I hope you’re feeling better today.

    Maybe these words help.

    Sometimes, people suffering push others away because we feel it will save the other person a ton of grief or pain. Sometimes, we feel underserving. Sometimes, we are so used to being left stranded alone that we get rid of you before you get rid of us, even though we don’t want to.

    You will have to respect her wishes, but maybe this will help you understand. She seems desperately in need of therapy, seems like she has some healing to do. Therapy is not a negative or shameful thing. I’m in therapy now. Sometimes, we think we can fix it on our own. Sometimes, we aren’t ready. Sometimes, we are scared or don’t have the finances. Sometimes, we just need someone who loves us to help show us the way.

     

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