hello, so my name is J 25m and my ex gf now 23F broke up a week ago due to her depression. She was stressed out due nursing school and she doesn’t work since she focuses on school. She failed one of her classes and it hitted her pretty hard and she has been depressed for about a month, it took a big toll on her where she’s not enjoying things she use to love. We had a healthy relationship where we enjoyed our time together, talked everyday and when we had arguments; it doesn’t last more than 5 mins because we ended apologizing to each other. The day she broke up with me is when she was upset and needed me but didn’t state that she needed me which caused her to be emotional and say all these hurtful things regarding our relationship. We decided to have one last day together and it was very emotional. She stated that she breaking up with me because her depression is getting worse and she doesn’t turn her love for me into hate. That really hit me hard because my previous relationship was abusive and she understood my past. I told her I would wait for her because throughout my dating experience, I never felt anxiety nor distrustful of her. It was always us smiling, laughing and doing silly things, so it’s hard for me to let go at the moment since I really did care for her.
During the last day she came by to drop the pictures of me and stuff I gave her and I asked do you want your stuff back and she told me no. I wasn’t sure what to think of that, and I told her to hold on to the necklace and the bead bracelet I got her when she comes back to me again and I would hold on to the promise ring I got for her back in October 2022. We cuddle and watch anime for our last day and we cried a lot, I could still imagine her face when she had to say goodbye to me and she told me she’s going to therapy for help and btw she never had bad trauma except of her strict parents who control her. I even ask her are you going to talk about our relationship with the therapist and she told me; “no because our relationship wasn’t the cause of my depression” Alittle back story of the promise ring, I was very hestitate about giving her a promise ring because my previous relationship would abuse and threatening to break up with me, so it took me awhile to gain the courage to give her a promise ring. She absolutely loved it and since the depression started happening, she was afraid to wear it because she has been forgetting or misplacing it which never happened before. She still has my location, follow me on social media and etc which gives me alittle hope that she would come back eventually. I do understand that I need to take this time to disassociate myself from her in order to work out the issue we had and improve myself but it has been a struggle because my severe anxiety is coming  feeling like everything is a lie to comfort me or she might find someone new. I know it’s early stages but I just need some advice on how to get through this no contact, I finally grieved for the relationship the other day and it was the hardest thing I done so far.