So, I generally have always had some issues with my mother-in-law and father-in-law. It isn’t like they are overtly mean to me, but they definitely make some odd remarks and have sent some strange emails.

When we were planning our wedding (My parents and I paid for everything), my MIL sent me an email listing the photos she wanted the photographer to take, many of which excluded me. During family dinners, I mainly am ignored and I generally try to be understanding as they don’t get to talk with my husband very much. I also help with dishes and generally sit quietly. I really can’t say much as they just direct questions at my husband. Recently I had developed eczema and my skin reacts poorly to many types of dish soap and my MIL stated that she could buy me gloves so that I can still do the dishes. Around the holidays, they make sure to list off every holiday we have spent with my family so that we have to join their family where I am, once again, ignored for the most part. She also insists on having my husband over by himself so that she can hear my husband and her husband talk instead of missing out because she has to talk to me. When my husband’s grandma was over for dinner who had Alzheimers, I would generally be the one taking care of her (with the exception of bathrooming help) and I was told to watch her, which I didn’t mind doing since she is a wonderful person and I enjoyed spending time with her. When she passed, I was the only spouse left out of the obituary in the “survived by” area. Their family also has text groups that only the nuclear family is allowed in. There are a lot of other small things, but I feel as though I am just ranting at this point.

My husband generally shuts down when I bring these instances up and says that they didn’t mean any of it in a mean way. Am I crazy or am I being left out?