Dear Tulips8
I am sorry to hear you had bad luck finding a good therapist. Are you aware of how to get referred to a professional NHS therapist?
Go to your GP and ask for a referral. There is a waiting list but if you have time in the day when you are not working it is easier than if you work every day 9-5.
The waiting list unfortunately is longer for those who work 9-5 hours, so evening appointments are harder to get quickly. The waiting list will of course vary depending on where you live.
Either way please do not be put off. You Will have your first appointment over the phone. You will be assessed for the type of therapy you need. The psychologist will ask you questions about what you think the problem is, your patterns etc..and they will explain to you what types of therapy there are.
if you do this you can then see that there are professional therapist around who want to help you.
I had tried it this way and it works. Be brave and be patient. It is worth it.
Good luck with your search.
Take care