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December 3, 2013 at 5:26 am #46127
Go to mooji on linehttp://www.mooji.org ….. and watch some videos of Eckart Tolle- Youtube. They are both enlightnedd and free..See how they do it… I am.. OM and good luck 🙂November 21, 2013 at 2:07 pm #45627
I do not just want child. I want a family. A man with a job and stability is what I should heve chosen. He was not in this position. However he is lovely and I miss him. I could not cope with him not wanting to make babies when I wanted them. I did the right thing. from your response you dont understand. I have the right yo make a family with the right man and it will happen. I will stick by my deep belief that I deserve the right man who wants the same as me. Thanks. I will not be defeated. I did do the right thing. I just need to give myself a break ! I just feel sad about the immediate loss .November 21, 2013 at 8:30 am #45582
I agree. You are so lucky that you have this choice. if there is nothing about the Ex that is making you doubt him..then do it. By the way, why is he your Ex? Why did you break up. Ask yourself that..and is that reason still a reality? xNovember 17, 2013 at 3:00 pm #45405
Hello there. I too am struggling with a similar thing. Moving on I have always found so hard. Even though I know there were things that I asked for, he said he could not give me. Kids-I still have thoughts I should have done this, and I should have done that…It sometimes take over and consumes me to the point I wish that I had never said anything. If I had kept quiet, he would still be with me. BUT, that would have meant I would hate myself for not being true to myself. The pain when you lose someone you love is strong. I have good moments and remind myself this is something I could not have if I was with him. Bad moments do not get better. It has been 4 months now.
We were speaking but now no longer. I told him to leave me alone as I hated the fact that still he would not change his mind and give me what I want. I feel at times that I would do anything to get him back. I have to remind myself this is not really true. I kid myself that I can be with him and be without children, but this would kill me and I would resent him forever and myself.
Accepting this is so hard, but I have no option. There can be someone else further down the line. Knowing what you know now, and I we can move forwards with more wisdom to avoid the same mistakes. I know the mistakes I made and it sounds like you do too. We can only learn from this.
Find a focus to spend your time. When the desperate painful feelings come on, be kind to yourself and do something nice for you. I need to put all the love I had for him back onto me so that I can feel loved again. If I can love myself more and more I will be able to love again. At least I fully know what I want. Before I met him I thought I did. Now I definitely do. Take care and allow yourself to heal. Just think about you and how you can be happy again xxx
eNovember 4, 2013 at 1:26 pm #44823
I am sorry to hear you had bad luck finding a good therapist. Are you aware of how to get referred to a professional NHS therapist?
Go to your GP and ask for a referral. There is a waiting list but if you have time in the day when you are not working it is easier than if you work every day 9-5.
The waiting list unfortunately is longer for those who work 9-5 hours, so evening appointments are harder to get quickly. The waiting list will of course vary depending on where you live.
Either way please do not be put off. You Will have your first appointment over the phone. You will be assessed for the type of therapy you need. The psychologist will ask you questions about what you think the problem is, your patterns etc..and they will explain to you what types of therapy there are.
if you do this you can then see that there are professional therapist around who want to help you.
I had tried it this way and it works. Be brave and be patient. It is worth it.
Good luck with your search.