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  • #201805
    Canyon
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    Okay, this sutuation I am in feels like the worst and scariest situation ever. I lost who I thought I seriously would spend my life with. We have been having issues mainly due to my mental health and state but she promised she would never leave. I have been more or less a stay at home dad because she said it would be a good idea. I didn’t realise it until now but I see it caused huge ripples in us. I lost all my self worth and felt she never respected me and contantly panicked. It drove us into arguments and then drove her off. I try to talk to her and her response is “work on yourself” I am in so much pain and confusion. On top of this all I now have to get back to work and get my own places and it is so scary and overwhelming with my two kids. I know how great we were together but she said she can’t get over the bad times. I am trying positive thinking and staying active but it ends up with me in deep conversation with myself on what to say to fix this. I feel so horrible and broken right now and I can’t even talk to the only person I let completely in…

    #201833
    Mark
    Participant

    Canyon,

    Are you getting help for your mental health?  I see that is the first thing you need to address.

    Are you needing to find work because your wife/partner has kicked you out and stopped supporting you?

    Yes, that can be scary as well.

    One step at a time.  Keep breathing.  Meditate.  Exercise.  Self care.  All that is “working on yourself.”

    Such changes can be overwhelming.  I hope you find a counselor/therapist to talk to along with these other things to help cope.

    You have two children who depend on you to take care of yourself.

    Take care,
    Mark

     

    #201835
    Canyon
    Participant

    I did have one, but due to my situation and not having funds for it, she isn’t going to continue seeing me. I am just working out, staying positive and trying to learn to love myself.

     

    #201841
    Mark
    Participant

    Canyon,

    I encourage you to tap into your circle of support, people who know and love you.  Having real life people to be with really helps.

    There usually are free counselors around, like in churches.

    Best,

    Mark

     

    #201977
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Canyon:

    You wrote, “I try to talk to her and her response is ‘work on yourself'”- did she suggest any specifics to you, in regard to what she means by working on yourself?

    anita

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