January 14, 2016 at 8:46 am #92500
Ok, so, my nerves have been bugging me the past two days, and I’m curious if anyone has any suggestions to make them calm down. I do have anxiety, but it’s under control [as far as I can tell at the moment] some of you may remember from a previous post I’m throwing caution to the wind [in a matter of speaking] I’ve quit my job and am moving 3 hours away! I’m really excited, but the voice in the back of my head is terrified I won’t be able to find work in time, won’t get an apartment in time [March is my last month in my place] won’t get my boyfriend and my “dream apartment” which we’re looking at this weekend. Anyway, all these things are slowly piling up and I’m worried I’m become a nervous wreck come mid February [my last day of work] Any suggestions to calm that part of my mind?
Thanks guys.January 14, 2016 at 9:42 am #92504anitaParticipant
When you feel your anxiety level rising, take some action to lower it: a deep, slow breath, a walk (in better shoes), a hot bath, yoga type stretching, hot tea… something. Do something every time you feel it going up, something other than thinking, that is. Your best thinking is when CALM, so go back to calm before thinking.
Thinking Under the Influence of Emotion is ineffective.
anitaJanuary 14, 2016 at 11:29 am #92527
Thanks. I’m calmer now, I just noticed this is day two with a knot in my stomach, tense shoulders, and shaking arms, and I just know it will get worse. I notice it usually crops up around 10, so I might try relaxing with some tea around then if possible.
I had planned things out [that’s me, to do lists everywhere] but I hit a bump on Monday and my nerves are up. I also decided last night to give some stuff over to my boyfriend, so that might also help. Really should start packing so it’s slow and not a giant scramble lol.
Thanks again.January 14, 2016 at 11:37 am #92530anitaParticipant
Two fronts to reduce your distress: I call those two fronts the “micro”- you drinking tea, for example, and the “marcro”- giving assignments to your boyfriend, so to reduce your list to do in practical terms. Making changes inside and outside of you. Good work!
anitaJanuary 14, 2016 at 11:58 am #92534PeppermintParticipant
you have big plans, of course you are nervous!
I know how it feels to have a knot in your stomach. I had that in the past, to the point where I wondered if I had developed some serious medical condition. x_X I think at that point the anxiety isn’t useful anymore.
One of the things that helped me was autogenic training. It’s a way to relax your body and (at least for me) it has the effect of giving my brain a break, too. Here is an example video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=74aXSxyi8oo . Lay down comfortably, put a warm blanket over you and try it, if you want. 🙂January 15, 2016 at 6:08 am #92610
Thanks I’ll try that tonight.January 15, 2016 at 4:50 pm #92644BeniteParticipant
All the above answers are great, I would also suggest you try to focus more on the solution to the things that are worrying you rather than the problem itself. For example when that negative voice tells you won’t find a job either ignore it and counter act it with something positive by saying: “Oh yes I will find a job!”. or you can say to yourself everything is going to be fine here is the solution to problem xyz. write out your plan to how you are going to fix each problem. That way when your brain sees that you have a plan, your nerves might calm down a bit. Focus on the solution not the problem! Hope this helps