May 23, 2019 at 9:48 am #295315
What do you do to or activities you partake in when you feel unbalanced or off center?
i struggle with depression & my sadness really takes control over me. I have tried therapy, yoga, meditation over the past years but I feel negative and low in my core. I feel weak and overly sensitive and I just wish I could find some outlet where I can channel all that into. Work sucks , family and friends are boring and always feel disconnected to, so I am just trying to find some activity that I can do to deal with all of this.May 23, 2019 at 10:02 am #295327
The activity I partook in when I felt “unbalanced and off center” for a few decades, and which helped me tremendously is my first quality psychotherapy. That was in 2011-2013. It took a long time for me to find the good-me in that “negative and low in my core” that was me before.
anitaMay 23, 2019 at 12:17 pm #295353
I have to agree with Anita that going to therapy will be the best thing in the long run. It can be hard at first but its definitely worth it. Either individual or group therapy- I’ve personally done both and each has their value. I can understand about feeling disconnected to people because not everyone will get it. Its important to process the emotions and not repress them because I’ve done that and nothing goes away trying to push down what you’re feeling. I found journaling really has helped. Maybe something creative to channel that negativity you feel: either its painting, writing, reading, or exercising. When you feel in a fog like that inactivity can make it worse- perhaps dance around to a great song! Hopefully practicing even just small forms of self-care repeatedly will bring a bit more balance so you can enjoy yoga and mediation. Wishing you the best <3May 23, 2019 at 2:29 pm #295381
Similarly after what I might call a dark night of the soul and realized I was in trouble i sought out professional help with a Jungian analyst. The therapy help me regain perspective.
What do I do when I feel unbalanced? I took up ballroom dancing and wood working. The key here was a activity that took me out of myself and that required different kind of thinking.
During those times when I can’t shake the unbalanced feeling I make a conscious effort to allow it and just sit with the feeling. In those moments I usually discover that I was fighting the feeling in a attempt to avoid something I needed to deal with which only make the feeling stronger. Lately for me the feeling of being unbalanced comes from loneliness.May 24, 2019 at 7:04 pm #295625
Yes for me loneliness plays a big part too for feeling unbalanced, I just feel really disconnected to everyone around me, i feel like I’m in that Jim Carey movie the Truman show, where everyone around me is just actors and nothing feels real. I’ve had therapy for years , it hasn’t helped much. I have taken up divin and that’s helped but what about all those hours where you aren’t ballroom dancing or divin or wood working.May 25, 2019 at 7:16 am #295641
In your original post you wrote: “I feel negative and low in my core”. In your recent post you wrote: “I just feel really disconnected to everyone around me… everyone around me is just actors and nothing feels real”.
That negative and low in your core, you can’t run away from it by “ballroom dancing or divin or wood working” for long. That negative and low is demanding your attention, it wants to rise from that core to your awareness, to tell its story.
You wrote that you had therapy for years. Can you share what happened in those therapy sessions all these years?
anitaMay 25, 2019 at 9:23 am #295667
just a lot of cbt, practicing mindfulness, and being aware of negative thoughts and talking through these thoughts and realizing them but not reacting to them. I do try to use these techniques but it’s not like I’ve ever really stopped feeling low in my core or the disconnection from everyone goes away, I’ve just been better at pretending on certain days and living with it than other days.May 25, 2019 at 9:30 am #295669
Way more than being logical, thinking beings, we are emotional beings. Like other animals, we are motivated by emotions, not by logic. So if all the therapy you had attended to logic, I am not surprised you still feel low in your core and disconnected from yourself and from others.
Wasn’t there any work at all, in therapy, done regarding your emotions, like talking about your childhood, where I am guessing that low-in-the-core happened?
anitaMay 25, 2019 at 9:40 am #295671
yes I did talk about my childhood a lot too. There wasn’t anything painful or traumatic there, pretty much very happy childhood.May 25, 2019 at 10:00 am #295673
You mean then that your depression, the sadness, the negative and low in your core, the feeling of being weak and overly sensitive, and feeling disconnected, all that started in your adulthood?
anitaMay 26, 2019 at 2:38 am #295723
I guess started in my adolescence but gradually got worse over the years, and there are periods where it is worse than other times.May 26, 2019 at 5:46 am #295727
“my childhood.. There wasn’t anything painful or traumatic there, pretty much very happy childhood… it all started in my adolescence”-
– what happened in your adolescence, what is it that started it all?
anitaMay 26, 2019 at 10:21 am #295801
Nothing specific or traumatic. I think I’m just too sensitive. I had a very blessed life, which is why it doesn’t make sense to me why I always feel this bad and low. And I feel like I am wasting it being this depressed and not doing something more important or make better use of my time but I can’t help feeling this way and literally stops me from everything. I really wish I was stronger and sometimes I see people around me able to get on with things when they have way worse problems than me and I can’t even function.May 26, 2019 at 11:50 am #295821
Will you tell me about your “very blessed life”?
anitaMay 26, 2019 at 1:37 pm #295833
Blessed life – security , money, loving & supportive family and friends, good education.
I’ve noticed anita, you reply a lot to these posts. What got you into doing this? Do you work in mental health or are you a healer? Its interesting.