When I first got together with my man , I knew he had a problem with alcohol. We started dating about a year ago and both decided to stop drinking and start working out together. That’s how the relationship started. I had a problem with booze but not nearly as bad as he did, but I also grew up in a very drunken, abusive household and wanted to just rid my life of the stuff. When we were just friends, and when things would get bad, he would have a bottle in his bed and drink until he passed out. He detoxed many times on his own and has gone to AA on and off for years. His dad (who is dying of cancer) just got released from prison on his 10th DUI and went straight back to the bottle. This triggered so many things for my boyfriend. I feel like he is so terrified of becoming his dad that he doesn’t know what else to do but hide his emotions in the only thing that would make him more like his dad, drinking. We went a full 6 months sober and had a routine going, but stuff with his dad happened and he started drinking again. He told me he has this switch inside him to just “not give a fuck” and will just do whatever he is going to do. He told me that this has been a lifelong problem and it isn’t going to go away. He says he isn’t good enough for me and that he will never be able to live a normal life. I am just so sad and disappointed because for 6 months, he did it. For the first time, he was able to stay sober for a period of time longer than a few days. At this point I don’t want to walk away and give up on him, but I feel like he needs professional help instead of just talking to me about it. I’m going to suggest we both go to AA, if not for anything but to be around people in similar situations. Any advice would be very helpful.