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October 12, 2015 at 8:59 pm #85330
jock
ParticipantI knew you’d fuss over this. Don’t read too much into it. If anyone should tire it is you Anita. Please take a well-earned break.
October 13, 2015 at 9:05 am #85349Anonymous
GuestDear jack:
Are you suggesting I should take a break because you would like me to take a break?
Yes, I fussed over your post, got attached to you on this website.
anita
October 14, 2015 at 2:03 pm #85416jock
ParticipantI got attached too. To your ridiculously relevant replies. And your agonisingly appropriate analyses. As I’m sure a lot of people do here on TB forums.You give this place credibility, for sure and certain. People can count on at least one concerned and heartfelt response here and that is usually from you.
I wonder how we get attached to people on forums in general. I mean our online persona is not the whole story. I think we get attached to an illusion of someone for sure. My weight issue is not my only shortcoming for instance. I can be downright pessimistic and negative which can really depress those near to me.
Forum Attachment Therapy (FTA) Dr. Anita, have you heard about this new, earthquakingly,thunderous theory? Anything to add?October 14, 2015 at 3:23 pm #85420jock
Participantsorry that should read FAT,
purely coincidence that I am a fat guyOctober 14, 2015 at 3:56 pm #85424Anonymous
GuestDear Jack:
“Our online persona is not the whole story.” I looked up “persona: “a social role or a character played by an actor.”
Here is my quote as it is being formed: “Our persona then is never the whole story, not in person, not on line, not on the phone and not to ourselves when we close our eyes at night and drift into unconsciousness.
You being submissive, placid as you put is was a social role formed in the context of your family of origin,. It was an adjustment to circumstances. Is it you? Not here, not anymore, not once the role is exposed for what it is- a role.
I bet your mother when she told you what a placid child you were; your brothers… people who spent time with you in person- never knew this was only a role. In person, they only knew your persona, not your person. A persona that they had a big part in forming.
Sure, I formed an attachment to you without seeing you- without seeing your physical body or otherwise sensing you with sound (although a highly strung hyena gives a clue), smell, etc. But others having seen you, heard you may have formed an attachment to you based on your persona or something, not based on your person. I claim I formed an attachment to you based on your person.
Forum Attachment Therapy (FAT)- let’s see… why cure it? Does Pious Pete have a problem with it? Does he tell you it is a betrayal of your partner? Doer Norman gets all nervous with Pete breathing down his neck? So Adam the Adult figures best to put an end to our communication? If so, I will fully corporate (I respect Adam). Otherwise, share this communication with your partner (If indeed Pete and Norman are giving you a hard time)- ask her if she has a problem with this. Make your decision.
I can’t think of any other reason why you would want to cure yourself from communication with me.
It is my understanding that you are real here. And so am I. I will fully respect your choices as far as our communication (no fuss)
anita
October 14, 2015 at 4:01 pm #85426Anonymous
GuestOh, for Pious Pete I am presenting to you Inner Self (First) Cousin Courtney. I am … family then, see, Cousin Courtney. Or Sister Silvie. Take your pick.
anita
October 15, 2015 at 2:47 am #85443jock
ParticipantI’m confused but I appreciate your honesty Anita. I need to gain some self-respect through consistent paid work. Then I will feel less guilty being on here.
October 15, 2015 at 8:27 am #85446Anonymous
GuestDear Jack:
Oh, your guilt is about not working, being employed, not about communicating and getting somewhat attached to me, a woman who is not your wife? I was way off then. Do what you need to do, Jack. Whatever is effective for you. Your well being is what is important to me, so I do have best wishes in mind and heart for you!
anita
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